Social media is agog over
Said Clooney, "Listen, it's humbling to find somebody to love, especially when you've been waiting your whole life, especially when your whole life is 53 years ... Amal, whatever alchemy brought us together, I couldn't be more proud to be your husband."
I admit the tribute was sweet and his wife is drop-dead gorgeous, but Clooney, twice named "The Sexiest Man Alive" by
What produced such a mushy reaction from women to Clooney's remarks? I think part of it is that in our modern "relationship" era where people have "partners" not spouses, it is a rare thing to see a famous man publicly expressing love for his wife. As
I think the answer to "why" is that our culture has redefined "love." In 1984, when
What is "love"? If it isn't more than feelings, a superficial sugar rush that occurs when one is near someone special, what happens when the feelings subside? No marriage can be sustained at the level of teenage romance (cue the late
Uh, not exactly Ricky.
Some years ago I introduced my wife to a colleague at a Christmas party this way: "I want you to meet my first wife." Later he sought me out and asked with a serious expression, "Why did you bring your first wife to the party?" I replied, "It's the only one I've had." He looked at me surprised, as if I were a dinosaur at the
Maybe I am, but it has worked for us. Has it always been perfect? Of course not. No marriage is and anyone who says so isn't telling the truth. When two imperfect people marry you double the imperfections. Someone recently asked me how we have managed to stay married. I answered, "forgiveness." If you admit you are far from a model man and husband and look for the good in the other person you will find it. Fault doesn't require a long search. It begins in the mirror.
So, happy anniversary,
"Till the end of time
Long as stars are in the blue
Long as there's a spring of birds
To sing I'll go on loving you."
Women, you may swoon on my