My father would sometimes tell the story of the day he became a citizen of
He had one suit, a blue one, and on the day he became a citizen, he wore that suit to federal court in downtown
But he wasn't an attorney or a politician.
He was an immigrant waiter at the
And in court, the judge in his black robe asked my father this question:
If you become a citizen of
As a reporter, I've witnessed other citizenship ceremonies, the families proud and happy, immigrants with their flags, and I haven't heard that question asked of others.
So that question could have been an isolated one, merely the whim of that particular judge. But my father didn't lie, and the pain on his face the first time he told me the story was his testimony.
His English wasn't the best then, but he clearly understood the question.
Would he fight against the country he'd bled for to protect? Would he kill those of his fatherland, if America asked it of him?
He'd spent 10 years in war, carrying a rifle in the Greek army in World War II, fighting Mussolini, then the Germans and through the occupation. And after the Germans left, there was a hate-filled and bloody civil war with the communists. Terrible sins were committed on all sides, not just army versus army, but family against family.
So that question from the judge wasn't some dry academic exercise. And his answer was wet with blood and pain and quite fresh in his mind.
Friends dead in the snows of
Of course, he didn't tell it to us that way. He didn't tell the judge about it. All he'd say was, "I was thinking of everything that happened."
We had to piece things together ourselves over time, from scraps of stories we'd learned, because he didn't like to talk about the war.
"And the judge asked me this, and I looked at him and I said 'Yes your honor.' I will fight.
"Because I wanted to be an American," he said. "Because I wanted you to be an American, so no other country could come in here and step on your belly."
There was a brief catch in his voice once, when he first told me. We were alone in the car, driving home from our store. But I was a little kid and didn't understand why he smoked and looked out the window and said nothing after that.
It wasn't one of the favorites in the anthology of family stories to tell and tell again around the Sunday dinner table. There were others we thought were much more dramatic and entertaining.
Like the time the horse fell into the well. Or the time the family mule, Truman -- a big headed white
Truman lay there hours as if dead until my grandmother said the prayers to remove the evil eye. Then Truman, mean faced and a biter, bolted to his feet and trotted to his shed.
And the story of the bandit great-great uncle, Sofianos, who loved a girl of our village and was killed by the federal police. That was one of our favorites.
The one of the citizenship was a difficult one, and as children we didn't know why.
Still, my brothers and I would try to imagine that other place in our father's mind, that place where an invading army could plant their boots on our bellies. Yet we couldn't imagine it. We had no frame of reference. We were born Americans.
And becoming American became a religion for us then. The Pledge of Allegiance that we said in school wasn't just words. "The Star-Spangled Banner" wasn't just an old song we had to sing.
These were the secular rites of melting pot America, binding us together, all of us, the native born, the immigrant, and the children of new citizens, with one foot in the new country, one foot in the old.
We know patriotism is often used by cynical masters of war to goad the people into battle.
And that wealthy and spoiled
But doesn't a nation of immigrants from every land need something to bind it, to reinforce our obligations to our country and to each other as citizens?
So what is that common thread? I held it once, but I don't see it now.
Instead we break in pieces; economically, politically, ethnically. We're angry, we bicker and we go our separate ways.