The cashier at the
It wasn't a purely transactional question, about whether I needed a bag or whether I'd like to donate my bag credit or whether I wanted a rubber band around the olives.
"Do you have a story for me today?" he said
For a moment I was stumped. What kind of question was that?
There are certain questions from a cashier that can feel as stressful as a pop quiz on advanced physics. One I've often been asked at the cash register is, "Any big plans this weekend?"
I've heard that at stores of various kinds, from the clothing shop to the grocery, and whenever I don't have big plans for the weekend -- which is a lot of the time -- I feel pressured to make my life sound more thrilling than it is.
I mean, does everybody else have big plans? Every weekend? Am I the world's most boring customer? Are other people exaggerating to the cashier just to avoid the embarrassment of saying, "Nope, no big plans"?
The Big Weekend Plans question is a relative of other stressful questions I've been asked at checkout counters.
"Going to any great holiday parties?"
"Going on any exciting vacations?"
"Having a great summer?"
These questions are well-intentioned and sometimes seem genuine. Other times they seem rote, as if they're in the store training manual.
Mostly they're variations on the standard "How's it going?" and yet they carry a greater burden of expectation, and I don't recall any of them ever launching a memorable conversation.
But this question was different.
"Do you have a story for me today?"
That was a good question. It doesn't demand proof of an exciting life. It just called for a story. Everybody's got one of those.
The cashier's name was Pedro, or so I deduced from his name tag, and I knew I wasn't the only customer whose stories he was soliciting.
He'd asked the woman in front of me for a story. Hers involved going to the gym and as he efficiently did his job, they had a spirited conversation about working out.
Now it was my turn.
"I do have a story!" I chirped, and as Pedro slid the lettuce, tomatoes and cheese across the belt, scanning and pecking at his keyboard, I surprised myself by telling him I was stocking up on food for my brother, who was coming to visit from his home in
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"Movies, videos," he said, adding that he learned snippets of lots of languages that way.
As he continued to scan and bag -- with impressive multitasking talent -- he told me he speaks three languages for real. When I asked which ones, he said Spanish, English and French.
English was obvious. Spanish I might have guessed. But French?
"I learned it at the
We chatted in French for a while, and by the time he said, "Do you want your receipt?" the day felt brighter, and all because he'd asked for a story.
When the writer
But the stories we tell ourselves and each other make it easier to live, often in unlikely places and moments, like the
One reason Pedro's question worked on me was that it seemed genuine.And he didn't just ask. He listened. He responded.
"You must get a lot of interesting stories," I told him.
He grinned. "Oh, yeah."
I pushed my cart away thinking that the world would be better -- calmer, more interesting -- if more of us followed his example.
Try it. Ask someone, "Do you have a story today?"
As for Pedro, I hope he keeps asking the question and keeping notes. He's got the makings of a novel. He could call it "Grocery Stories."
Previously:
• 06/19/18: A Big Sister's Guide to Life: Don't chase men and other practical advice
• 06/12/18: For 13 years, 2 friends wrote letters daily. It was a love affair of poetry, separated only by death.
• 06/01/18: What would we do without our brothers?
• 05/17/18: Forget a fiddler. City woman awakens to find a goose on her roof --- and laws about removing it and her eggs
• 05/10/18: A high school senior with college dreams was paralyzed by gunfire. Two years later, he's still pushing forward
• 04/05/18: Remembering the youngest history makers
• 04/03/18: The Parable of the (Expletive Deleted) Comfort Dog
• 02/15/18: Fees, fines, loans, scams: How the poor get poorer
• 02/01/18: When Paul Simon, Daniel Day-Lewis and Elton John say 'farewell' to work they love, should we too?
• 01/25/18: At Oscars time, let's snub the snubbing
• 12/28/17: The real 2017 word of the year
• 12/20/17: The laundry-folding robots are coming
• 12/13/17: How not to waste the last days of 2017