In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review June 15, 2012/ 25 Sivan, 5772

Between Mystique and Failure

By Suzanne Fields

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | When Chelsea Clinton stood in for her mother at a recent gala at the Kennedy Center in Washington, she addressed her mother's hopes that women could build a better world. She said, slyly, that if her mother had been speaking in her own voice, and not the voice of the secretary of state, she would have added, "and for the grandchildren she hopes to have."

A nice touch. When a secretary of state can become a grandmother, she's not limited to the language of the generic "we," but expresses instinctual hopes and dreams of every mother growing into her next stage in life. Hillary's deciding whether to run for president four years hence may depend less on the competition than on whether she has better things to do — maybe with a grandchild.

A theme of the modern feminist movement has always been the notion that as women ascend in the public arena, they would create a more nurturing world. But power has a way of creating its own "gender neutral" world, defying the cliches of feminism. When you think Indira Gandhi, Margaret Thatcher or even Hillary Clinton, "nurturing" is not the word that springs to mind.

For all that contemporary feminism has accomplished, it has failed most notably in making the peace it promised between men and women. Women in America have never been as "equal" to men in sexual relationships as now in the 21st century, but if the lady hipsters in the popular literature today tell us anything about how men and women relate to each other, it's that women act more like men rather than the other way around.

"Bachelorette," the hit play by Leslye Headland widely acclaimed by audiences in both New York and Washington, portrays the female equivalent of the bachelor party. Instead of men drinking, taking drugs, spinning dirty jokes and showing off with a nasty bravado of sex, the women drink, take drugs and talk dirty. Smut becomes their status quo, too. Feathers fly when the hens replace the crestfallen in a nasty cockfight.

If "Sex and the City" was about the warm bond possible between women, "Bachelorette" is about mean girls all grown up who make that earlier sitcom look like a fairy tale of innocence. The HBO hit "Girls," by Lena Dunham about the "hookup" culture, continues to get close to porn about bright young women coming of age and looking for work and love in all the wrong places. It's hailed as an authentic reflection of the experience of middle-class women who have just graduated from college and who seek careers in the Big Apple.

These women do not suffer from what Betty Friedan called "the problem that has no name." Their problem actually has many names, and includes men who want to exploit their own liberation. They're all learning the bitter lesson that freer sex fails to make happiness easier to find in a world where "Fifty Shades of Grey," an S&M novel written by a woman, sells 15 million copies.

While much of the hookup culture is played for over-the-top titillation by these women writers, there's also a sense of overwhelming sadness, fatigue and failure. Certain consequences of the sexual revolution would be familiar to a poor maiden in Victorian England. One creepy guy in "Girls" gets so lost in his own lustful fantasies that he shows no recognition or interest in whether his "partner" enjoys the experience, gets pregnant or suffers bruises from his harsh behavior. Worse, she remains clueless to both his brutality and banality.

These are not the women Gloria Steinem sacrificed herself in a bunny tail to save. Instead, they make up a privileged generation consumed with pushing the envelope. One highbrow female defender of "Girls," writing in the New York Review of Books, even finds "a certain joy" in the guy's solipsistic sexual experience and calls it an antidote to "prudish Hollywood." Prudes in Hollywood? Who knew?

In another scene, the father of the main character is shown starkers, and the author insists she didn't write the scene merely for shock value.

"I seriously consider television to be the people's medium," Dunham tells The New York Times. "Like the idea of seeing your parents naked or ... worrying about whether you smell or worrying about whether your body is weird or what goes across the face of a person who's supposed to be experiencing pleasure but isn't — those are things I'd love to normalize on TV."

This is not a nurturing world, not even for the grandchildren of a secretary of state.

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