In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review May 30, 2014 / 1 Sivan, 5774

It's not Sexism; it's Insanity

By Suzanne Fields

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Inquiring minds want to know, and nothing frustrates the modern mind like tragedy that defies rational explanation. Nothing complicates communication like social media, with its speed and insatiable appetite for more information, and demanding it now. "Experts" with prejudice posing as insight rush to public forums with the quickness of a hummingbird's wing and offer the content of a hot-air balloon.

In the aftermath of the massacre of six students just off the campus of the University of California at Santa Barbara, an orgy of censure and condemnation overflowed all kinds of media, blaming sexism, misogyny, movies, television and video games. Like everyone with access to the YouTube video of Elliott Rodger, I watched with fear and loathing as he described rejection and failure in his pursuit of the affections of young women. He thought himself a narrator out of a Nabokov novel, but he had no insights into self, only into psychopathic obsessions.

All he could show was the flat monotone of a pathetically creepy guy whose distorted perceptions had turned him into a cold and calculating monster. Here was a young man who had snapped, having hidden violent fantasies and urges under a mask of troubled shyness, whose determination to exact revenge on the world for every slight that fed his misfiring brain, is exposed, too late, with blood-curdling clarity. The eeriness is more disturbing by the theatrical touches -- the picturesque palm trees, the glistening lip gloss, the exquisite natural light that illuminates the dreadfully dark message.

Frustration invites feminist cliche, like critic Ann Hornaday blaming mass entertainment "controlled by white men." "How many men," she asks in The Washington Post, "raised on a steady diet of Judd Apatow comedies, in which the shluby arrested adolescent always gets the girl, find that happy endings constantly elude them and conclude, 'it's not fair'?" The short answer is plenty, and they don't become mass murderers.

Nor should young women blame a "culture of misogyny" on the campus, as many do. Men have been aggressive since Adam fled the Garden of Eden with Eve, but not many men kill women in pursuit of affection and sex. Enforcing tighter rules on drinking and riotous behavior of both men and women, encouraging both sexes to behave themselves, is a good thing to do. But turning back the clock is impossible, and no feminist remedy would have prevented massacres at Blacksburg, Newtown, Aurora and the other places whose very names are etched on the national conscience.

The young men who became mass murderers have something in common, and it's not only the ownership of guns and knives. The killers were mentally ill and, though difficult, should have been detained for observation and treatment, which would have made it harder to obtain guns (though knives would still be accessible). Unfortunately, mental illness doesn't reveal itself in an X-ray, a cough, a rash, a fever. It's insidiously subtle, with nothing to predict a deadly eruption.

We can't even be sure of its cause. Some inherit a genetic predisposition to mental illness. Others have traumatic experiences that trigger it; in still others, the brain has faulty wiring, and relating to others is difficult. Prescription drugs, together with talking and behaviorist therapies, can ameliorate some symptoms, but when patients go off their "meds," the symptoms return.

It's beyond the realm of science today to say for certain who can be helped and for how long. Elliott Rodger had been in therapy since he was a small child, though never committed involuntarily. The law makes it difficult to commit those who need observation and treatment. A judge must be convinced that a person is a danger to himself or others. That's easier to see with hindsight. Defense lawyers, judges, police and mental-health professionals should work more closely together, but not many do.

A little common sense could go a long way. Family and friends who see weird, antisocial, obsessive behavior should observe closely and notify authorities. Policemen should be trained to act with the mentally ill and learn never to be misled by "polite" or cooperative behavior. If the police who checked out Elliot Rodger had asked to see his room, and he refused, they could have obtained a search warrant, found his stash of weapons, and asked him about it.

Freedom comes quickly to young people in the modern culture. They need more protection than we give them. We often think they have more mature judgment than they actually do, and young women who blame a misogynistic culture for mass murder are both foolish and naive. The first order of the day is to find a better way to confront the potentially violent mentally ill in our midst. They're dangerous both to themselves -- and to us.

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