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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

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Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review June 4, 2007 / 18 Sivan, 5767

The ugly truth

By Tom Purcell

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Some people can get awfully ugly about beauty.

Three Australian fellows, as a ruse, set up DarwinDating.com, a dating Web site only for beautiful people. Every day, members of the site vote to determine which applicants are beautiful enough to become new members.

Got nerdy glasses, a balding noggin or a nose that is bent or out of proportion? How about off-white teeth, large ears or too many freckles? Congratulations, you've violated the beauty rules and you will be rejected.

You'll be rejected, the creators of the site argue, because of Charles Darwin's theory of evolution. Through natural selection, the stronger, smarter and healthier organisms thrive and reproduce, whereas the weaker organisms are eliminated. Succeeding generations, then, inherit the more favorable traits, thus perpetuating the species.

But is physical beauty really a sign of improved strength, smarts and health? Not according to a recent article in The Sun. The paper recently reported on stunning women who prefer homely men.

These women find "rippling muscles and chiseled good looks a complete turn-off." They say that pretty-boy fellows are dull and self-absorbed, whereas homely fellows work hard at treating them like princesses.

Researchers at Newcastle University in England say there is a genetic reason beautiful women are drawn to such fellows: It's a way of repairing the gene pool. The idea is that the classically beautiful man lacks the durability of his uglier counterpart. His genes, and his ability to fight disease, are not as strong as they are in homely fellows.

Possibly because homely fellows have less chemical hair goop seeping through their skulls?

According to Diane Felmee, a sociologist, only a third of British women said looks were the first thing that attracted them to a man. Most are drawn to a man with a sense of humor or financial and career success.

How about that. What is old is new again.

Years ago, before the feminist movement kicked into high gear, women had few career options. They were expected to marry and have children. They measured their success by their husbands'.

It was the golden era for men. Women were forced to consort with boring men of high moral character. Even a short, chubby, bald guy could land an attractive wife so long as he had a CPA.

But then the world changed. As women thrived in the workplace, they no longer needed men to support them. They were able to get picky. They decided to do to men what we had been doing to them: measure us by our looks.

They decided they wanted us to be pretty boys and, boy, did we deliver. They decided they wanted us to get in touch with our feelings and, boy, did we become sensitive, emotional and self-absorbed.

Pretty soon, men were spending more time shopping at the mall and getting their hair primped than women ever did. Pretty soon, our magazines had the look and feel of women's magazines. The headlines in Men's Health became indistinguishable from Cosmo's.

Pretty soon, the state of men and women was more confused than it had ever been. As men got softer and more like women, women got harder and more like men — and everybody was confused and unhappy.

But in London, at least, some women have had enough. They looked their sensitive, new-age males in the eyes and saw something they didn't like: themselves.

They decided to turn back to what is opposite of them: Homely fellows who are confident, witty and self-assured. Sure, they have balding noggins and rough-looking mugs, but their authenticity makes them compelling.

So while much of the world thinks it's progressive — while so many superficial folks think humans can rewrite the way we are genetically wired — some folks in London are on to something.

They have rediscovered a simple truth — that opposites attract. That only when men and women celebrate their "oppositeness" and uniqueness will sparks fly.

They've rediscovered something else, too: Physical beauty really is only skin deep.

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