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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

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April 2, 2014

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Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review April 2, 2008 / 26 Adar II 5768

Child abuse, disguised as faith

By Mitch Albom

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Spirituality without religion can be deadly

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Prayer is good. But it doesn't mean you can just sit there.

An 11-year-old Wisconsin girl grew deathly ill recently while her parents prayed for her recovery. They weren't in a hospital. They weren't in an emergency room. They were in their home. Although the girl had probably, for about a month, shown symptoms such vomiting, nausea and extreme thirst — all signs of a diabetic condition — they refused to call a doctor.

G-d, they felt, would take care of it.

"We stayed fast in prayer," the mother told the media. "We believed that she would recover."

Instead, the girl died.

The parents say they follow the Bible. But someone has to show me where in the Bible it says that doctors are evil, a heathen concept, an insult to your faith. Until then, these cases of adults allowing children to suffer — in some cases, die — in the name of true believing is nothing more than killing while on your knees.

The girl, Madeline Neumann, reportedly had not seen a doctor since she was 3. Three? That alone is a serious concern. How many of your kids went from 3 to 11 without a doctor visit?

But to have a child endure diabetic ketoacidosis, a life-threatening insulin loss that in any normal case is highly observable (fatigue, constant thirst and urination, severe weight loss, vomiting) and to stand by and ask G-d to fix it, well, that's not noble. That's not righteous.

That's child abuse.

If not murder.

In the end, only a sister-in-law's call to police led to intervention. According to media reports, the extended family had been trying to convince the Neumanns to get their daughter help for several days. "She believes in faith instead of doctors," the woman reportedly told a police dispatcher of the mother.

When authorities finally arrived at the house, an ambulance was called, but it proved too late.

Now investigators must decide what to do. Should they charge anything? Was a crime committed here? The mother claimed that she didn't really notice serious symptoms with her daughter, just "a tiredness within the last two weeks" and a sudden turn for the worst.

But her own relatives were concerned enough to call police. Besides, going eight years without a doctor is a pretty sure sign you think outsiders are not necessary. Most parents go running to physicians if their kid so much as sneezes. Ignoring diabetic reactions, at least the kind that usually come with ketoacidosis, suggests a deliberate choice against medical aid.

Now, it is not my place to tell people their beliefs, but I will say this: If you think you can make it on your own, the hands of G-d moving you around the board, that's your prerogative.

But don't decide that for your child.

A child must be protected. Parents have that obligation. And if they fail it, society should be a backstop.

Now I know there are many of us who believe "G-d has a plan." And I hope and pray that's true.

But I'm betting his plan doesn't include us sitting around doing nothing. We work, yet have faith. We have fun, yet have faith. We eat, yet have faith. If you can indulge in some forms of 21st century activity, why not others?

Faith is good. In my view, it's vital. But in this day and age, to refuse to see doctors is living in a time warp. And when a child's life is threatened, ignoring the modern world should not be an option.

There's an old story that goes something like this: A fisherman is drowning. He prays to G-d to save him. A boat comes and offers him a rope. "No, G-d will save me," he says. Another boat comes. "G-d will save me," he repeats. A third boat. Same thing. Finally, he drowns.

When he gets to heaven, he's upset. He asks G-d, "Why didn't you save me?" And G-d says, "I sent you three boats."

Maybe G-d sent us doctors, nurses and the intellect to fight and cure our diseases, too. In that case, praying while Madeline died was not only misinterpreting faith, it was insulting it.

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