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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

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Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

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John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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Jewish World Review Jan.28, 2005 / 18 Shevat, 5765

Carson's death should remind us of what was good and what we've lost

By Tom Purcell

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | The news about Johnny Carson hit me hard, and now I know why.

I'm going to be 43 in April. I'm not old, but neither am I young. But in my lifetime, our country has seen dramatic change — not all of it good. Johnny Carson reminds me of what was good and what we've lost.

Carson took over the Tonight Show in 1962, just seven months after I was born. Critics say the show was hip and edgy during its first ten years in New York, but when he moved to California the show became more routine and predictable.

But that's what I liked about it.

I didn't start watching the show until I was a kid in the 1970's, mostly in the summertime. One summer when I was 12, my parents took us to Washington, D.C. After a few days of touring the monuments in the blistering heat, we drove to Baltimore to visit relatives. We stayed at their house that night, and I had the basement all to myself.

I loved my temporary taste of independence — my first sense of being an adult. I turned on the television and — no cable then — the only channel I could pull in was NBC. Johnny and Ed McMahan were doing their Carnac the Magnificent act. When McMahan rudely interrupted, Johnny spoke his pre-written insult:

"May Shamu the Killer Whale relieve himself on your living room carpet."

As I got older, I watched Johnny more. In high school summers, I dreaded the daylong football practices, but when we finally got home in the evening we'd go swimming up the street in Miller's pool. We'd pitch in for pizza and talk under the stars, and then I'd head home in time for Johnny.

I don't know why, but it was reassuring to watch his show each summer night. No matter how miserable the day was, no matter how much I dreaded the next day of practice, Johnny brought perspective. There are good days and bad, he made me feel, but just take it as it comes, just as he did for 30 years.

My mother held a strong affection for him. She said he reminded her of her father, who died one month before her wedding, when she was 19 years old. She said her father had a similar warmth and wit. She didn't know why either, but Johnny comforted her.

I never thought about any of this much until he died last week. Sure, he was 79 and lived a long and interesting life. But I'm still sad about his passing.

He was a great reflection of what it is to be American. He was at once authentic and good, but also flawed. He carried with him the great values he learned in the Midwest — he was polite, unable to boast, embarrassed in many ways by his success.

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But then he had a few too many to drink now and then. He'd been addicted to smoking. He was divorced three times.

But each night all these qualities, good and bad, were laid bare for the world to see. He came out on the stage impeccably dressed — he had dignity and respect both for himself and his audience.

He often made himself the butt of his jokes, and when he went after the powerful and the mighty he always did so with class, never with malice.

I compare his show to so much of what is on television today. Where he was respectful and even embarrassed by fame, so many on television today are climbing over each other for a taste of it. They humiliate themselves on Fear Factor or celebrate self-absorption on MTV. They have no sense of perspective and certainly no sense of shame.

So Johnny is gone and that is why I'm sad. With his passing, I sense that the civility, class and gentlemanliness of my childhood are also long gone.

That's why his passing hit me so hard.

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