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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

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April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

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Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review August 9, 2007 / 25 Menachem-Av 5767

Upgrading the Voice in Your Head

By Ariella Marcus

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | As children, we learned how to speak respectfully to authority figures. We learned to say "please" and "thank you" at the dinner table. We learned to preface requests with "may I?" We learned to give verbal respect to rebbes, to our teachers, to law enforcement officers, and even to the postman. But did anyone ever teach us how to speak respectfully to ourselves?

In preparing this review, I unofficially polled a number of my friends and family members: "Growing up, did anyone ever teach you how to manage your inner self-talk?" The answer was an unimpressive and unanimous "no." In fact, the very notion of self-talk, as detailed in a remarkable book by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, was as foreign to my survey group as learning Klingon as a second language.

My informal survey raised another serious question: How is it that there is no definitive preparation, no measurable skill set, for us to engage in the longest running and most personal dialogue of our lives? Surely we all "speak" to ourselves. But most of us have been clueless about how we speak to ourselves — until now.

Rabbi Pliskin's Conversations with Yourself is a user's guide for maintaining healthy thinking and constructive self-talk. The principles he sets forth are clear, relevant, simple, universal, and effective. In other words, they really work!

Every conscious person has an internal river of thought. But for most of us on the planet, our inner streams of consciousness are polluted with cycling repetitions of worry, self-doubt, internal criticism, and negative images. As any environmentalist will confirm, if a river's headwaters are toxic, everything downstream will be contaminated. Conversations with Yourself is a revolution in personal spiritual ecology. It offers welcome relief to all who yearn for a quiet, uncluttered mind, for a mind that works with you, not against you. Mastering self-talk is a major key to realizing this lofty goal.


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While Rabbi Pliskin's approach is novel, the notion of a positive internal dialogue is not new. It was understood by our great sages. The medieval scholar Rabbi David Kimchi (the Radak) commented on the Biblical term hagah, often translated as contemplate. We find a familiar example in the verse from Joshua 1:8: lo yamush sefer haTorah hazeh mi'picha v'hagitah bo yomam va'laylah (this Book of the Torah shall not depart from your mouth; rather you shall contemplate it day and night…). The Hebrew verb hagah, says Rabbi Kimchi, corresponds to the cooing of a dove or the growling of a lion, both of which are constantly repeated actions. Every day many of us utter a phrase from the Book of Psalms (19:15), to improve our internal, repetitious self-talk, yet we might not even know that's what we're asking from the Divine when we say, "Yihyu l'ratzon imrey fi v'higion libi lifaneycha Hashem Tzuri v'Go'ali — may the expressions of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart find favor before You, G-d, my Rock and my Redeemer."

Using the wise and caring guidance set forth in Conversations with Yourself, we can all significantly upgrade our self-talk. For many, the effects can be immediate, positive, and long-lasting.

I admit to an initially jaded attitude when I first picked up the unpublished manuscript to review Rabbi Pliskin's latest work. I expected, as often happens with self-help authors, a book of recycled themes already extant in his previous books. But this ever-effervescent writer surprised me with yet another refreshingly original book. I was hooked the moment I read the Introduction's lucid unifying premise which infuses the book's 91 short, energetic chapters: "The quality of your life is the quality of your ongoing self-talk. This one idea is the foundation of how you experience your present moments."

It's my personal hope that everyone who opens this book will merit completing it so as to enter into a transformed conversation between the sometimes disparate personas of "me, myself, and I." Rabbi Pliskin has identified one of the most widespread problems we face today, one that is eminently curable — and not necessarily by a trained professional in this case, but by the person who knows your inner landscape better than anyone else — you!

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