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Jewish World Review August 30, 2007 / 16 Elul, 5764 A new Orthodoxy is taking root in the most unlikely of places By Jonathan Rosenblum
Heroic rabbis and their families are sacrificing and succeeding
THE RABBIS WHO HEAD these congregations relate to and accept every Jew
as one finds them in terms of religious observance and Jewish knowledge. If
those that the rabbi seeks to draw close sense that his concern with them is
contingent on their becoming fully observant, they will recoil.
The rabbi must learn to rejoice in every small step forward on a spiritual
journey that can take many years, and which usually involves numerous ups
and downs, and he must possess the ability not to lose heart when the
inevitable obstacles arise along the way.
The degree of personal involvement in every aspect of their congregants'
lives required of these rabbis is quite unlike anything experienced by those
in more traditional synagogues. Each member family is unique in terms of its
background and internal dynamics, and those dynamics are constantly shifting
during the religious growth process. Each congregant requires his or her individual
approach. The only rule to guide the rabbi is: There are no rules.
The demands upon the rabbis' families are also quite unlike those of the
families of rabbis in more traditional settings. My Sabbath in Dunwoody, for
instance, there were over 25 people for both the main Shabbes meals, and a dozen people sleeping over at the Friedmans' home. Those numbers I was
informed by members of the shul are relatively modest, and the presence of
at least three more unopened folding tables in the dining room lent
credibility to that claim.
The demands on the rabbis' wives are not limited to entertaining large
numbers of guests. They are also intimately involved in the lives of the
female congregants as role models, friends, and counselors.
Even the rabbis' children are an integral part of the effort. They learn
early to adapt to sharing their homes with strangers. And they are heavily
invested in each family in the congregation. Even after they move away,
their calls home usually revolve around families in the congregation. In
their new settings even during post-marriage advanced studying in Israel they invariably find themselves drawn to outreach work. One of the rabbis I met told me that his children have developed an acute sensitivity to the needs of others. As a consequence, they are always among the first in rabbinical school or seminary to spot a classmate with some emotional need and to offer support.
There are unique frustrations that go with the rabbi's position. One is
that some of the congregants who progress furthest religiously will
inevitably move to larger Orthodox communities, where there are greater
educational opportunities for their children.
Another is that there will always be a certain percentage of congregants who
feel frustrated in their own religious growth process, and find the rabbi the easiest
person to blame.
Yet for all the rabbis I met the privilege of being able to facilitate their
fellow Jews on the path of coming closer to G-d and the joy of watching
them do so compensates for the incessant demands and the frustrations that
go with the territory. And that makes them heroes of ahavas Yisrael in our
time.
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JWR contributor Jonathan Rosenblum is founder of Jewish Media Resources and a widely-read columnist for the Jerusalem Post's domestic and international editions and for the Hebrew daily Maariv. He is also a respected commentator on Israeli politics, society, culture and the Israeli legal system, who speaks frequently on these topics in the United States, Europe, and Israel. His articles appear regularly in numerous Jewish periodicals in the United States and Israel. Rosenblum is the author of seven biographies of major modern Jewish figures. He is a graduate of the University of Chicago and Yale Law School. Rosenblum lives in Jerusalem with his wife and eight children.
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