In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Oct. 21, 2013 / 17 Mar-Cheshvan, 5774

But Can the Death Spiral be Reversed?

By Jonathan Rosenblum

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | The release recently Pew Research Council report on American Jewry, merely confirmed what anyone paying attention already knew: In the natural order of things, non-Orthodox American Jewry is in an irreversible death spiral. Among non-Orthodox Jews, the intermarriage rate is now 71%.

That means out of every five marriages involving a non-Orthodox Jew, more than four are intermarriages. The largest study of intermarried homes found that the religious orientation was primarily Jewish in only 14% of them, and even in those "Judaeo-centric" homes, 60% had Christmas trees.

In the October 2005 Commentary, Jack Wertheimer, then the provost of the Jewish Theological Seminary (Conservative), gathered additional harbingers of American Jewry's demographic demise in "Jews and the Jewish Birthrate." The median age of American Jews is seven years above the national average; Jewish women are less likely to marry; and when they do, they are less likely to have children. For the past fifty years, the American Jewish population has remained stagnant, despite the influx of 500,000 Jewish immigrants, and of those identified as "Jewish," close to 20% do not meet the Halachic criterion.

Among synagogue-affiliated families, there are more Orthodox Jewish children than among Reform and Conservative Jews combined.

The demographic decline has been powerfully felt in Jewish communal life. In the 1990s alone, Jewish organizational membership fell 20%, and the number of households contributing to the Federations by one-third. A 2003 study, found that only 6% of Jewish mega-gifts went to Jewish causes, however defined.

THE HIGH INTERMARRIAGE RATE should occasion no surprise. "Jewish" has long since ceased to be a primary, or even tertiary, identity for most American Jews. Those things that most American Jews associate with Jewish identity — a sense of humor, a taste for certain foods, commitment to social justice, Holocaust remembrance — are by no means exclusive to Jews. If politics or a sense of humor or taste in movies are primary to one's self-identity, then one is likely to choose one's spouse on the basis of those things, not religion.

Nor is it any surprise that "Jewish" should rank so low on the totem pole of self-identification. For the one message that most American Jews have never heard is: Judaism is unique; Judaism has a message that differs from the prevailing zeitgeist. Rather they have been told that Judaism is trivial, and its rituals and proscriptions outdated and primitive.

Every time, "Jewish" or "marriage" are redefined to "keep the kids within the fold" or to maintain the demographic numbers, the message is conveyed that Judaism is meaningless and exists only for its own self-perpetuation. Judaism, our young understand, makes no demands and will accommodate them however far afield they travel.

AMERICAN JEWISH LEADERS, including a large swath of the clergy, have not followed Wertheimer's minimum prescription for the preservation of American Jewry as a distinct community: to address directly about where, how, and why Judaism dissents from the universalistic ethic of the culture at large, by "speaking on behalf of the distinctive commandments, beliefs and values for the sake of which Jews over the millennia . . . have willingly and gratefully set themselves apart."

The Jewish leadership has not done so because few in its ranks actually believe in those distinctive commandments. But where Wertheimer's advice has been followed, it turns out that the Torah still has the power to move Jews and fill them with pride in being members of a people with a unique mission.

Last Shabbos (Sabbath), South African Jewry united to keep one Shabbos in full compliance with Halacha under the motto "Keeping it Together." JWR contributor Chief Rabbi Warren Goldstein's Shabbos Manifesto declared forthrightly: "We will endeavour to keep [Shabbos] in its entirety. In all of its detail and splendour as set out in The Code of Jewish Law." An instructional booklet produced by Rebbetzin Goldstein went into the fine details domestic laws and customs. A Hotline was made available for all those with questions about Shabbos observance, and anyone could sign up to be hosted for Shabbos or for a private coach on the laws of Shabbos.

The Chief Rabbi pointed out to me that Shabbos is the only mitzvah (religious duty) specifically referred to by our Sages as a "matana — gift," and he was determined to share this gift with as many South African Jews as possible. Again in the words of the Manifesto: "Together we embark on this great adventure to rediscover our G-d-given gift of Shabbos."

And it worked. South African Jewry responded to the challenge with enthusiasm. One woman expressed gratitude to the Chief Rabbi for his confidence in the more secular community and belief "that you don't have to be 'frum from birth' to share in the magic of Shabbos — you just have to put in a bit of effort and make it happen."

In the weeks leading up to the Shabbos, the excitement built and the sense grew of a community coming together "to own its precious heritage, wearing its as a badge of pride and honour." Close to 3,000 women gathered for a communal challah-baking on a blocked off street in Johannesburg, prior to Shabbos, and between 4,000-5,000 gathered for Havdalah services and a concert on the grounds of Yeshiva College at the conclusion of Shabbos.

The large synagogues of Johannesburg were as filled as on Kol Nidre night, except this time, the parking lots were empty and there were no traffic jams after services. As many as 20,000 Jews, in a total community of about 75,000 are estimated to have kept a full Shabbos for the first-time in their lives.

A woman wrote to a friend of mine who is the rabbi of a shul in the Sandton suburb of Johannesburg of growing "emotional as she and her family walked to shul shouting out good Shabbos on the streets of Sandton, knowing we were part of something much bigger." "Having done it once," she confessed, "the thought of doing it again is not as daunting and I am also less intimidated to ask questions as I learn along the way."

I AM NOT SUGGESTING that the South African success could be replicated to the same degree elsewhere. The South African community is a homogenous one — almost all descend from Lithuanian Jewish stock; 85-90% of the children attend Jewish schools; almost all affiliate with Orthodox synagogues. Chief Rabbi Goldstein commands enormous respect for his energy and sincerity. He has consistently provided for the entire community. The Sinai Indaba, which he initiated four years ago, has become a mecca for the finest speakers in the Jewish world, and attracts over 6,000 Jews annually in Johannesburg and Capetown.

Beginning in the 1970s, there was a major teshuva revolution in the traditional, but non-observant South African community. Today, close to 20% of the Johannesburg community is Shabbos observant. That means most South African Jews have close family members who are religious.


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One key aspect of that revolution was a requirement initiated by the Chief Rabbinate that all couples married under its auspices must attend courses on Jewish family life, including the Laws of Family Purity, and the woman must go to the mikveh prior to marriage.

One might think that restrictions on marital relations would not be a big selling point, especially among younger couples. But the opposite turned out to be true. Many couples intuitively felt the power of the Torah's rhythms of separation followed by joyous reunion.

That experience has been replicated in Israel as well. An organization called Lahav provides pre-marital classes for brides, in a one-on-one setting, with highly trained and sensitive counselors, to approximately 3,000 couples a year. At the end of the sessions, each bride is asked to rate the sessions and describe their anticipated impact on her subsequent married life. On a scale of 1-5, the average rating was 4.929.

But even more interesting were the written comments of the participants, most of whom either had no concept of a Torah approach to marriage or harbored a number of crude distortions prior to the course. Many commented that they never imagined that the course would have the slightest impact on their subsequent married lives, and expressed their surprise at their eagerness to keep the mitzvos that they just discovered.

Once young Jews discover that the Torah may actually have something to offer them in the most important aspects of their lives, they are open to expanding their knowledge. One secular high school teacher wrote, "I have started to get interested in mitzvot in general, and, in particular, the mitzvot that are related to women, and I have even started attending classes on Judaism."

The story of American Jewry today is just one more chapter in an old story: Where Jews remain connected to Torah, Jewish life continues to thrive, and where they lose that connection in withers and dies. The South African experience points the way towards another possible conclusion.

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JWR contributor Jonathan Rosenblum is founder of Jewish Media Resources and a widely-read columnist for the Jerusalem Post's domestic and international editions and for the Hebrew daily Maariv. He is also a respected commentator on Israeli politics, society, culture and the Israeli legal system, who speaks frequently on these topics in the United States, Europe, and Israel. His articles appear regularly in numerous Jewish periodicals in the United States and Israel. Rosenblum is the author of seven biographies of major modern Jewish figures. He is a graduate of the University of Chicago and Yale Law School. Rosenblum lives in Jerusalem with his wife and eight children.

© 2013, Jonathan Rosenblum

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