In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review April 2, 2007 / 14 Nissan, 5767

What Edwards won't get back

By Jonathan Gurwitz

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Having to bear a personal tragedy is, alone, hard enough. How much harder it must be to do so under klieg lights.

There was no good way for John and Elizabeth Edwards to spin the news that her cancer had returned. It wasn't politics. It wasn't a poll. It wasn't the flubbed hiring of a blogger. It was a matter of life — and death.

Elizabeth Edwards' cancer has metastasized. The form the cancer has taken cannot be cured, only controlled. And the statistics suggest she will not live more than a few years and that pain will be a constant companion to a ceaseless series of procedures and treatments.

Yet people of all political stripes can respect the grace with which John and Elizabeth Edwards went before the cameras to deliver the bad news to millions of strangers and to tell his supporters that his run for the presidency would go on.

It isn't the first tragedy the couple has confronted. Eleven years ago, their 16-year-old son, Wade, died in an auto accident. That cathartic experience prompted John to leave his legal practice and run for the U.S. Senate in North Carolina.

Successful politicians by definition aren't quitters. Their families are accustomed to uncomfortable sacrifices. So it's easy to understand how the initial impulse of John and Elizabeth Edwards after the dreaded diagnosis was not to let a disease alter their lives and to stay on the campaign trail.

No one should criticize John Edwards for staying in the race. Few people can conceive of the painful process that brought him and his wife to that decision.

You can imagine the words of two people who love each other, of John telling Elizabeth that nothing is more important than she is, that he would do anything, give up everything, to help her and be with her. And you can hear Elizabeth telling him in return that nothing is more important to her and to the nation than for him to continue the campaign.

And while that decision is understandable and even admirable, John Edwards should reconsider, for two reasons — one family, one political, both related.

This is not to suggest that when a terminal disease is diagnosed, an individual's life immediately ends or that a couple's world should stop and a spouse should quit his or her job. "Either you push forward with the things that you were doing yesterday," Elizabeth Edwards told Katie Couric on "60 Minutes," "or you start dying."

But a presidential campaign is not a normal job or an everyday thing. The demands on time and the requirement for incessant travel mean that for the next 11 months, at least, John Edwards will be away from his family at a time when his wife and two young children need him most.

John Edwards, at 53, can get back those 11 months on the campaign trail in 2011 or 2015. He can never replace the limited time he has left with his wife. He can never restore the missing moments with his children.

And while voters may recognize the strength and resilience required to persevere politically in the face of personal tragedy, they may show greater respect for a politician who has the fortitude and the virtue to walk away from public life when the obligations of family beckon.

The desire to win at all costs and the craving to possess and maintain power irradiate the nation's diseased political culture. In the harsh glare of that blinding ambition, John Edwards has a rare opportunity to cast real family values in sharp relief.

John and Elizabeth Edwards made the difficult and brave decision to try to continue the normal trajectory of their lives despite her illness. In more than one sense, it may have been the most therapeutic choice. Normal for them, since 2004, is campaigning for the White House.

With the passage of time, they may make the even more difficult and brave decision to seek health and wellness in the community of their family and friends rather than in the company of strangers on the campaign trail.

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JWR contributor Jonathan Gurwitz, a columnist for the San Antonio Express-News, is a co-founder and twice served as Director General of the Future Leaders of the Alliance program at NATO Headquarters in Brussels, Belgium. In 1986 he was placed on the Foreign Service Register of the U.S. State Department.Comment by clicking here.

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