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April 21, 2014

Andrew Silow-Carroll: Passoverkill? Suggestions to make next year's seders even more culturally sensitive

Sara Israelsen Hartley: Seeking the Divine: An ancient connection in a new context

Christine M. Flowers: Priest's execution in Syria should be call to action

Courtnie Erickson: How to help kids accept the poor decisions of others

Lizette Borreli: A Glass Of Milk A Day Keeps Knee Arthritis At Bay

Lizette Borreli: 5 Health Conditions Your Breath Knows Before You Do

The Kosher Gourmet by Betty Rosbottom Coconut Walnut Bars' golden brown morsels are a beautifully balanced delectable delight

April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

Silence is much more than golden

By Rabbi Hillel Goldberg



A meditation worth talking about from a contemporary Jewish philosopher





“A time to be silent and a time to speak.”

                        —   Ecclesiastes 3:7


HAGADDAH, the Passover ritual text, means "telling" and Passover, of course, is the holiday of retelling the exodus from Egypt — the holiday of conversation, of questions and answers, of debates and inquiry. However, in one small corner of the Haggadah silence reigns.

The fourth son in the Haggadah does not know how to ask a question. "You open up for him," says the Haggadah. You start the conversation, since the fourth son is silent.

Sometimes, however, silence is the conversation.

This week's Torah portion begins, "After the death of the two sons of Aaron . . . " (Lev. 16:1). Earlier, the Torah records that these two sons, "Nadav and Avihu, each took his fire pan . . . and brought before the Lord an an alien fire . . . A fire came forth from before the Lord and consumed them, and they died . . . And Moses said to Aaron: Of this did the Lord speak, saying, I will be sanctified through those who are nearest Me . . . and Aaron was silent" (Lev. 10:1-3).

Aaron loses two sons, and he's silent?

Rashi, the foremost commentator, says: Aaron was rewarded for his silence in that G-d delivered to him alone [not also to Moses] the law of intoxicants (Lev. 8-11).

Nachmanides (d. 1270): Aaron stopped weeping after he heard Moses' words of comfort.

Seforno (d. 1550): Aaron was comforted in that his sons sanctified G-d's name.

Other possibilities: Aaron was too angry, or too crushed, or too surprised, or too baffled to utter a word.

Or, we might translate Aaron's silence as "And Aaron held his peace."

Which is exactly what the Jewish mourner sitting shiva — the person one of whose seven closest relatives dies — has the right to do. A visitor to a "shiva house" must remain perfectly silent until the mourner initiates a conversation, which he is not required to do; and, indeed, some never do. Silence is the conversation.

"Dedication of the book to my wife, Atarah, is a pale indication of my profound, all-consuming indebtedness to her. Any attempt to articulate it . . . would inevitably ring hollow, but inasmuch as she is attuned to my silences she will understand every nuance and hear every resonance. . . . " — Isadore Twersky, preface to Introduction to the Code of Maimonides

"Only to G-d is my soul silent." — Psalms 62:2

SILENCE can be pragmatic: "I have found nothing better for the body than silence." — Ethics of the Fathers (Pirkei Avos) 1:17

Some take this to mean that one should not speak about "bodily" matters — the material, the mundane, the physical, the great steak one had last night, the beautiful dress one saw. Rather, let the mouth be silent about the body and instead soar with talk about prayer and purity and ethics.

I believe that Pirkei Avos can be taken literally. In a moment of great stress, anger or argument, it is the body itself that is preserved by cooling down or by not taking the bait — by being silent, tempting as it might be to answer, or to lash out.

"Rabbi Akiva said . . . A protective fence for wisdom is silence." — Pirkei Avos 3:17

"A word is worth a sela, but silence is worth two." — Talmud, Megillah 18a

The medieval sage, Rabbi Yehuda the Pious, said:

"When I speak, I have reason to regret. But when I am silent, I have nothing to regret. Before I speak, I am master over my words; once the words leave my mouth, they rule over me."

You don't have to defend what you didn't say. — Rabbi Hillel Goldberg

TWO ironies of silence: In Speech v. Silence, Mr. Speech and Mr. Silence appear before the court. First, Mr. Speech defends speech as essential to human community, commerce and friendship. Then Mr. Silence begins to defend silence. Mr. Speech gets up and slaps Mr. Silence across the face. The judge asks, what was that for? Mr. Speech replies: He is going to defend his with mine? — The Ways of the Righteous (The Gate of Silence)

The quintessential Jewish prayer is the "Silent Prayer," the Shemoneh Esrei or Amidah. Walk into a synagogue when it is being recited and you can hear pin drop or, at most, the turning of pages. Silence is the apex of prayer. However, one does not discharge one's obligation in reciting the Shemoneh Esrei unless one articulates the words loud enough for oneself to hear them — but not so loud that anyone else can hear them.

The Silent Prayer is silent, and not silent.


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The Hebrew language has many words for silence. One we have not yet referenced is used in the book of Esther.

Mordechai addresses Esther after Haman has convinced King Ahasuerus to sanction genocide against the Jewish people. "Because if you will be silent at this time," Mordechai warns Esther, "then relief and deliverance will come from somewhere else, and you and your father's house will perish . . . " (4:14).

As Rabbi David Fohrman points out, the Hebrew word for silence used by Mordechai denotes deafness. Mordechai is saying to Esther, "If you make yourself deaf, as if you do not know what is going on . . . "

Silence, in other words, is not just passive. It can be active, making oneself deaf to what one prefers to avoid.

Silence can be active in another way. People fast on Yom Kippur. "Fast" means not to eat food. Judaism has a related, if rarer, practice: a speech fast. Not to speak for a designated time. A ta'anis dibbur, a speech fast, is not only a protective fence for wisdom, but a spur to repentance.



THE Jewish tradition has still another way of being silent. It is to quote selectively.

For example, the medieval Hebrew Jewish legal scholar, referred to as Semag, often quotes Maimonides' legal code. Semag will quote Maimonides verbatim — then suddenly omit a phrase. This changes Maimonides' meaning. The law, as formulated by Maimonides, comes out different by virtue of Semag's omission. In effect, Semag's renders Maimonides silent on an issue about which Maimonides himself spoke.

American tradition has its own take on silence. Under the Fifth Amendment to the US Constitution, an accused criminal has the right to remain silent. He may not be judged guilty on that account. The Jewish legal tradition, reflected in the Talmud, looks at things rather differently. It rules: "Silence is tantamount to confession [of the crime]."

In another context, the Talmud praises silence when one is insulted, but does not insult in return (Gittin 36b, Shabbos 88b).

Jewish secular tradition — or at least one exemplar of it — posits a tremendous capacity for interpreting silence. A. B. Yehoshua wrote a novel, Mr. Mani, which is a series of dialogues. In each dialogue, however, only one side is quoted. The entire novel records the words of only one of two speakers. The reader is left to imagine the other side of the dialogue.

"THERE are times of silence and times of speech. When it is a time of preparation to receive Divine influence, all is silent and listens. When the time comes that each entity can influence the next, then speech begins. One needs to prepare himself for the attribute of silence, in order to hear the heavenly voice, and G-d's word will be upon him." — Rabbi Abraham Y. Kuk, Oros Hakodesh (vol. 1, p. 110)

"Silence comes from the depths of the soul and from emotions that lie beyond human speech. When the deep person remains silent, worlds are being formed, songs are composed in the heights of sanctity, and a great strength elevates one's whole being." — R. Kuk, ibid. (vol. 3, p. 274)

"It would be disastrous for one to be unable to remain silent and have to speak at a time when the inner light deemed it a time for silence. This rebellion against the kingdom of silence destroys worlds. Afterward, one would have to rebuild them from scratch, and so the wise remain silent at such times." — R. Kuk, ibid. (p. 275)

"To You [G-d], silence is praise." — Psalms 65:2

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JWR contributor Rabbi Hillel Goldberg is executive editor of the Intermountain Jewish News -- where this first appeared -- and the author of several books on biblical and Judaic themes.

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