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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review April 19, 2010 / 5 Iyar 5770

A Word for the Rejects

By Paul Greenberg

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | In households across America this time of year, there is a sense of expectation. And dread. Families await the arrival of that all-important letter, the one that will determine the kid's future. Everything depends on the admissions office at Harvard. Or Yale. Or some perfect little ivy-covered school in the New England woods that looks like a Currier and Ives engraving.

Getting into the right school is no longer just a matter of having top grades and filling out the application form, not any more. The applicant has got to wonder whether the accompanying essay struck the right balance between idealism and realism, confidence and humility, sufficient knowledge or sounding like a know-it-all, a healthy self-respect or just adolescent self-absorption….

Few waits are so wearing for kids — or their parents, who have to be thinking: Why is all this going to cost so much?

Take comfort. It's not the end of the world if the kid doesn't make it in or, for that matter, the beginning of it if he does.

Somebody ought to compile a list of all the now famous people who were rejected by the college or university of their choice. Somebody has done just that, or at least started to. Namely, the Wall Street Journal. Not too long ago it ran a story about some of the country's more illustrious college rejects, beginning with Warren Buffett.

The future master investor was turned down by a couple of the best business schools in the country, including Harvard's. Which turned out to be Harvard's mistake. (It makes quite a few.)

Looking back, the financier out of Omaha, Neb., who never saw any reason to move out of his hometown, explained why being rejected can be a good thing. "The truth is, everything that has happened in my life … that I thought was a crushing event at the time has turned out for the better."

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The rejection by Harvard certainly turned out well for Columbia University, which decided to accept a last-minute application from one Warren Buffett that year. In 2008 alone, he gave more than $12 million to Columbia through the Susan Thompson Buffett Foundation.

For that matter, young Buffett was also turned down by the University of Chicago's business school, news that filled him with "this feeling of dread" — and fear he'd deeply disappointed his father. Naturally his father responded with "only this unconditional belief in me." Isn't that what fathers are for?

Among the other famous names mentioned in this round-up of rejects were Meredith Vieira of the "Today" show (Harvard); John Schlifske, president of Northwestern Mutual (Yale); Tom Brokaw of NBC and middlebrow culture in general (Harvard again); and Ted Turner (Princeton and Harvard).

Then there's the Nobel laureate in medicine, Harold Varmus, now president of Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, who was rejected by Harvard's medical school — twice, on occasions a year apart. He still recalls a dean there who, in his interview, called him "inconstant and immature" — and suggested he join the military. As if the military needed the inconstant and immature.

It's restorative, thinking of some of those whose futures were supposed to be forever blighted because they didn't get into, for over-rated example, Harvard. It's something to keep in mind, young people, when one of those thin rejection letters arrives in the mailbox from your first-choice college rather than the thick letter of acceptance you were looking for.

Thank you, Sue Shellenbarger of the Wall Street Journal, for conducting this small survey of great rejects. A lot of families out there need this kind of perspective.

Next, let's have a select list of distinguished achievers who dropped out of the college of their choice, the way Bill Gates left Harvard in his junior year. (After scoring 1590 out of 1600 on his SATs.) As inspirations, they also serve who leave school.

Years ago, I saw a moving little film called "Ballad of a Soldier," a kind of Russian "Red Badge of Courage" about the adventures of a young soldier in the late unpleasantness with the Germans 1941-45. At one point, he's on a train headed home on leave with an older comrade who's lost his leg in battle. Rather than return to his fiancee maimed, the soldier has decided to stay on the train, maybe to the end of the line, which in Russia can be a long, long trans-Siberian way. "But where will you go?" our young hero asks him. The older soldier just shrugs. "Russia is a big country," he explains.

So is America. Opportunity still beckons out here. In places like Omaha, Neb., and Bentonville, Ark., home of a little company called Wal-Mart. Opportunity comes in all kinds of places and ways. Sometimes it comes in the form of a rejection.

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