In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Feb. 14, 2011 / 10 Adar I, 5771

The Death of Civility: Fadspeak's Latest Victim

By Paul Greenberg

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | It's happened before. The politically correct among us take a perfectly good word and prate on about it till they bore everyone in sight. They may even turn it inside out so that it becomes the opposite of what it once meant. Then they wonder why the word they've finally driven into the ground has lost all its power.

See what happened to diversity, which was once a good, simple enough concept. But that was before the word-killers got their hands on it. First they turned it into a shibboleth, then an obsession, then a way of creating not diversity at all but a quota system embedded in law, faculty appointments, fashion and everything else. Instead of a diversity of opinion, they wound up preaching uniformity. Until eyes now glaze over at the very mention of the word.

Diversity came to mean a color-coded, gender-determined, by-the-numbers system. Complete with papers to be filled out in triplicate. Fail to award tenure to a sufficient number of left-handed, redheaded applicants of the transgendered persuasion, and a school could find itself in a heap of trouble. All right, I exaggerate. But not by much.

The word Diversity became odious as it developed into a synonym for a different but just as rigid form of discrimination. And people stopped using it, or paying attention to those who did. Because it had lost its original meaning. Some imposter had taken its place.

Much like a currency that's inflated, words can lose their value, too, and people will stop accepting it. Soon anyone with an ear for the language will reject some words as meaningless.

Maybe that's why you don't hear much about Diversity any more. Not outside press releases and political speeches. When you do, you can almost see people tuning out.

Much the same thing happened to Affirmative Action, which was seen through soon enough.

Sometimes a fine word like Justice will be tweaked a little -- so it becomes Social Justice, which is quite a different thing, a socio-economic agenda instead of an ideal, as in Justice for All.

In the end, words that once served a useful, uplifting purpose become sad little depressing things lingering on the edge of meaning, used mainly to advance some group's own interests. Soon it ceases to be a real word at all. It becomes just a blunt instrument good for nothing but beating one's opponents over the head. The way Fascist and Communist were reduced to just a general term of opprobrium. Racist is following the same, sad course. Overused, it loses any usefulness.

A once good word can go from obsession to occupation, becoming a whole industry in the process, a way to make a good living out of a once noble cause. It can become a legal specialty, or maybe something for sociologists and psychologists to charge for. Soon enough we get things like workshops in diversity or civility, often enough "facilitated," that is, manipulated, by a paid professional.

Kingsley Amis had a character in one of his novels nominate "workshop" as the most depressing word of his era, and that was decades ago. The thought of having to attend a workshop -- on diversity or self-esteem or whatever has become the fad du jour -- hasn't become any less depressing since. Just ask any teacher yanked out of the classroom to attend some tiresome, daylong yakfest.

There's nothing like a mandatory discussion group led by the usual social worker/do-gooder/earnest volunteer to kill all interest in an idea, however fine it once was.

Now much the same devaluation is being visited on Civility. It was once a useful synonym for manners, for consideration for others, for observing the forms of propriety even if the barbarian inside all of us would prefer delivering a good, solid right to the jaw. Civility is a word akin to civilization itself. But now, day by day, we can watch it being transformed into one more piece of meaningless murk.

After every bitterly contested election, the call for civility is renewed. And while it is usually accompanied by a pro-forma appeal for all to be more civil, it doesn't take long before it becomes evident that all are not created equal in this respect: Some need to be more civil than others -- and they're usually those on the other side of the political, social or cultural divide. Civility really needs to be saved from those who keep demanding only others practice it, which isn't civil at all.

Another way to rob a good word of meaning is to deprive it of any force. For example, make civility synonymous with just weakness, with holding back one's opinion rather than expressing it in the most civil, and therefore all the more forceful, way.

Civility is an aristocratic style that needs to be preserved in a republic lest it degenerate into just another mass democracy, complete with demonstrators who don't think so much as chant: Diversity! Civility! Hope, Change, Audacity, Etc.!

It is impossible to be insulted by someone who just rants and raves, marching in circles and thinking the same way. It is polite, reasoned, civil criticism that really stings.

One of the best arguments for civility, the real thing, is that it sharpens criticism by delivering it gracefully, exactly, on point. The way a stiletto strikes home. Incivility is just another verbal ax anybody can use. It requires little precision and less thought, and American politics already has quite enough of that kind of thing, thank you.

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