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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review December 6, 2012/ 23 Kislev, 5773

Tying the Knot With 'Big Daddy'

By Suzanne Fields




http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | My son, age 42, finally got married. His bride, in a shimmering turquoise maternity dress, walked down a red carpet with rose petals scattered by his 8-year-old twin nieces, to join a cantor who sang the Jewish blessings under a chuppah, a canopy held by a man on each corner, in a quasi-traditional wedding ceremony.

The bridegroom broke the traditional glass under his foot, the guests cheered, and a jazz combo struck up syncopated rhythms heralding the happy couple.

If that sounds more quasi- than traditional, the bridegroom gets credit for breaking through a social trend. More than 23 percent of American men between 35 and 44 have never married. (My son just made it, just.) The bride runs against a rising tide of unmarried women, which increased 9 whole percentage points in the years since 1970, from 38 percent to 47 percent. There are 1.8 million more single women now than just two years ago. They make up one of the nation's fastest-growing demographic groups.

The expectant mother also leaves the ranks of women — one in five — who forgo having children. As the numbers of single women multiply, families with children are getting smaller. My two daughters, each the mother of two, fit neatly in the latest data on fertility rates; in 2009, the number of children per mother was two, but according to the National Center for Health Statistics, the figure for 2012 was close to 1.9 per mother.

My family statistics are of small consequence but illustrate trends of considerable consequence, both politically and culturally. The marriage gap played a significant part in President Obama's election to a second term. Singles broke decisively for him and for very specific reasons.

"The real news wasn't how the singles (numbers) broke," writes Jonathan Last in The Weekly Standard, it was that their share of the total vote increased by a whopping 6 percentage points." Since nearly three of every four of all single women are white, they look a lot like the Julia, the cartoonish character Mr. Obama appealed to in a campaign commercial, bragging that his policies take care of her from toddler to retirement, and his opponent's prescriptions wouldn't. His "gifts" balloon the deficit, too, but that's beside the demographic point.

Before the welfare reform Republicans pressured Bill Clinton to sign into law in 1996, it was a staple of conservative rhetoric that welfare as it existed had encouraged generations of poor women to depend on the government in a way women once depended on men. The reform turned that around. It's a remarkable irony that Obama and the Democrats are encouraging and fostering dependency for middle-class women. The safety net has become middle-class entitlement.

Conservatives, who were offended by the president's "Life of Julia" commercial because it promoted female dependency, were wrong about its appeal. "Julia" was looked on by millions of single women as worthy of imitation.

Single feminists of earlier times who railed against dependency on "the Man" now hail the government of Big Daddy, though such dependency is ultimately likely to be worse. Unlike the 56 percent of married women who voted for Mitt Romney, they're satisfied with their relationship with a faceless bureaucrat as long as he sends the checks for Head Start, college and health care. They admire Sandra Fluke as campaigner for government-supplied condoms.

President Obama didn't pull Julia out of his imagination as a social model worthy of admiration, as many conservatives said — he had read the latest statistics on marriage. Nor was it an oversight that Julia had a baby with no husband in sight. Men are abandoning responsibility. Women rely on them less. It is not so much "The End of Men," as Hanna Rosin colorfully puts it in the title of her new book, but the end of men as we have expected them to be. It may also be the "end of women" as we have expected them to act.

My parents would have been shocked at my son's unconventional wedding with a pregnant bride, but the newly wedded couple may stand in transition to more radical customs worldwide. Fewer men and women are marrying at all.

Joel Kotkin, in a widely circulated report titled "The Rise of Post-Familialism: Humanity's Future?" describes the way the family model for most of human history — defined by parents, children and extended kin — is undergoing radical change. For now a new model dominated by singletons is concentrated in urban centers of North America, Europe and East Asia. Though reasons are different in different countries, the upending of traditional values among secularist societies is written in a minor key. The question is whether it will become the dominant theme.

"The current weak global economy, now in its fifth year, also threatens to further slow family formation," writes Joel Kotkin. "Child-rearing requires a strong hope that life will be better for the next generation." We can all hope.

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