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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Oct. 9, 2006 / 17 Tishrei, 5767

Heart, soul and different brains

By Suzanne Fields


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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Nothing animates the conversation of women like talk about how they're stereotyped by men. The stereotypes are rarely consistent. Some men still rage at the look of an emancipated career woman with long hair twisted severely in a bun. But he's eager to forgive when she lets it down over a glass of wine and fluffs it suggestively.


Some American men are so disillusioned with changes wrought by radical feminism that they seek an Asian or Eastern European bride through a marriage broker or dating sites on the Internet, egged on by wild fantasies that they'll meet a submissive housewife by day who becomes a wild and crazy sexpot by night. This is not the mail-order bride of the Old West populated by manly men and womanly women. On the frontier, men and women were expected to work hard and were equal opportunity offenders of good hygiene.


But as the city and suburbs replaced the frontier, so did expectations, and women began to work against stereotypes of their own making. You can find them abundantly in the Mommy Wars, where working mothers attack stay-at-home mothers and vice versa. Freud famously asked, "What do women want?" Today women pose that very question to themselves.


Gone is the feminist bravado of sharpshooter Annie Oakley: "Anything you can do, I can do better." Or at least as good. Women are beginning to realize that sexual differences, though not immutable, determine what men and women do best.


Feminist studies still blame the environment (read men) for creating the culture that makes it difficult for them to enter the workplace, but the latest research on male-female differences suggests that the brains of men and women are wired so differently that dramatic sexual distinctions begin in the womb. An appreciation for the maternal instinct is enjoying a revival.


This does not mean that male chauvinists can revert to piggy behavior, suggesting that women return only to a place in the home. But it does allow women to validate their strengths for doing what comes naturally in motherhood.



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The scientific phenomenon changing male-female perceptions is a book called "The Female Brain," by Louann Brizendine, a neurologist, all about new brain imaging technology. It ought to help (but probably won't) both men and women find a commonsense understanding of the roots of sexual differences and how to deal with them.


My favorite finding of Dr. Brizendine's is her description of the different way the brains of girls and boys determine thinking about the opposite sex after puberty. The part of a boy's brain that controls sexual thought is twice the size of a girl's. Once his brain is flooded with testosterone, the boy is likely to think about sex every 52 seconds. Surges of estrogen may lead a teenage girl to obsess over her style and her need to look desirable, but that's as far as she wants to go. She buys, he lies.


"It's hard to believe that something as tiny as a little hormone could have such a robust behavioral effect for all of us," Dr. Brizendine tells ABC News' "20/20." Hormonal changes that occur in a woman after she gives birth reorient her behavior toward her husband. "The dad is there only in a supporting role now," she says. "Whereas he is used to being the main course, he's now like a side dish." (But maybe a sweet potato?)


We've long known that women are more verbal than men, but we've only recently established that the female emotional memory is longer. Women use 20,000 words in a day where a man is likely to use only 7,000 (and often says just as much). Add her long memory to his laconic reticence and you can understand how men and women argue differently. A man is nearly always at a disadvantage when a woman recalls every argument they've ever had. He doesn't remember any of them, or so he says.


But men and women change as they grow older. Baby boomers, now entering their 60s, still work out at the gym as a way to stay fit, but the latest trend for seniors may reflect changing hormones and diminished aggression. They're returning to ballroom dancing as an alternative to exercise. Dancing burns from 250 to 400 calories an hour. Membership in USA Dance, a ballroom dancing organization, has doubled to 20,000 members over the last decade. Dancing cheek to cheek to "Heart and Soul" doesn't have the intensity of rocking to "You Ain't Nothin' But a Hound Dog," but it has a soothing intimacy and emotional memory, and it can eliminate some of the 20,000 words that most couples can usually do without. Nature will out.

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