In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

7 ways to make doctor visits more successful

By Harvard Health Letters

Here are some simple but effective tricks to making sure you leave the doctor's office with what you need. Use them without reservation | Have you ever left a physician's office thinking the doctor just didn't hear your concerns? Or do you remember all the questions you wanted to ask, but didn't, on the way home? You're not alone. Research shows that doctor-patient relations are not always ideal. But in many cases, the injury is self-inflicted.

"Doctors think that if patients don't speak up, they don't want a conversation and they want to be told what to do," says Dr. Michael J. Barry, a clinical professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School and president of the Informed Medical Decisions Foundation.

It doesn't have to be that way. Here are some simple but effective tricks to making sure you leave the doctor's office with what you need:

1. Before the office visit, think clearly about what's important to you in a treatment decision.

"Ask yourself what you really care about," says Karen Sepucha, an assistant professor in medicine at Harvard Medical School and director of the Health Decision Sciences Center at Massachusetts General Hospital. "How much are you willing to do to get rid of your symptoms? What are your main concerns and what are you hoping to achieve with treatment? Make sure the doctor knows what is important to you--and write things down."

2. Don't be afraid to speak your mind.

Many people are fearful about appearing to contradict or disagree with their doctors.

"We know from a lot of research that patients are often afraid about speaking up," Dr. Barry says, "People are afraid of being labeled a bad patient by their doctors if they speak up too much or push back."

We go to doctors for their medical opinion and expertise, but the one thing they don't and can't know on their own is how you feel about a test or treatment. Most doctors believe in shared decision making, but may default to "Doctor knows best" if you don't speak up for yourself. Just say, "Could I take a minute to tell you what I really think about this?" Saying it in the form of a question can defuse some of your nervousness.

3. Ask about options.

Medical decisions researchers have identified and tested some simple questions that can help you to get more out of encounters with doctors. The following questions have been shown by research to improve the outcome of decisions between doctors and their patients:

a) What are my options?

b) What are the possible benefits and harms of those options?

c) How likely are the benefits and harms of each option to occur?

"These questions are good ones and have been tested," Dr. Barry says. "When people speak up there is a more engaging conversation about treatment options."

Also, ask for estimates of benefits and harms in the form of numbers. Out of every 100 people who have a treatment, how many stand to benefit? And how many could have a serious side effect? Not all doctors will have these numbers immediately at hand, but they may be willing to do some homework and get back to you.

4. Pick a doctor who's willing to share decisions.

Expect your doctor to bring you into the decision. Many experts in healthcare, including Dr. Barry, feel that shared decision making should be the rule, not the exception. It requires you to be assertive, but also requires doctors to be welcoming. A doctor who does not express interest in what you think might be a bad match.


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"Both parties have to agree there is a role in working together to get to the right decision," Dr. Barry says. "There's time in the visit where we need to be hearing the patient's agenda instead of just pushing the doctor's agenda."

5. Ask for a second opinion when it counts.

For many routine decisions, asking for a second opinion may not be worth the time and money. If the issue is trust, maybe you need another doctor. But for decisions that have high-stakes consequences--cancer treatment, for example--doctors should be comfortable with facilitating second opinions.

"If the stakes are major, and particularly if what the doctor is suggesting doesn't sit right with you, second opinions are a good approach," Dr. Barry says. "Seeing different doctors in different specialties is a good way to get different points of view, and good doctors aren't offended by that."

6. Bring someone along.

Take a spouse, adult child, or friend with you for support.

"They can sometimes be very effective at making sure certain questions get asked," Sepucha says. "Having someone there who can support you is always going to be a good thing." But don't bring someone who will try to take over the decision for you.

"Make sure that person is going to support your preferences rather than replacing his or her preferences for the doctor's," Dr. Barry says. "You want to go with someone who is at least sympathetic to your perspective."

7. Take your time.

Professor Sepucha emphasizes that good decisions take time.

"Probably one of the most important tips that I tell people is to take your time," she says. "Most medical situations, even important ones like a cancer diagnosis, are not emergencies." You may have several weeks to absorb information, research options, seek out second opinions, consult with family and friends, and make a decision. Ask the doctor, 'Does this need to be done right away? How much time can I safely take to consider my options?' The goal should not be to procrastinate. But on the other hand, it's good to remember that you don't have to make the decision in one short visit."


As in most aspects of health care today, the success of treatment depends as much on you as on the doctor. If you often find yourself leaving encounters with doctors feeling that your concerns weren't really addressed, don't just go with the flow. Ask what you--or your doctor--can do to improve the quality of medical decisions. Your health and possibly your life could depend on it. To get the best care, you have to be an active participant in that discussion. - Harvard Men's Health Watch )

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