In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

SWF, 41, seeks nice Jewish family

By Ron Grossman

Tamar Garibay

"Do I seem weird?" she asked a rare visitor to her apartment

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JHICAGO — (MCT) For the $70 the ad cost her, Tamar Garibay got only one reply, and she's not sure what to make of it.

The ad ran last month between "Help Wanted" and "Legal Notices" in the classifieds section of the Chicago Jewish News. Under the heading "Adult Adoption," it described the 41-year-old woman's battle with loneliness.

"I want a family," it read.

Garibay wasn't looking for help with her medical or financial woes, though she's got plenty of each. She just wanted to join others around their Sabbath dinner table.

In retrospect, she can see why people might be put off by an adult "looking to be 'adopted' by a Jewish family," as her ad was worded.

"Do I seem weird?" she asked a rare visitor to her apartment in Chicago's Rogers Park.

She didn't give that impression to Jaime Engelhart, the classified ad manager at Chicago Jewish News.

"I really wanted to hug her," Engelhart recalled.

Garibay's submission was letter-perfect, and Englehart guessed she must be an educated person.

As she is. Garibay graduated from Mother McAuley Liberal Arts High School on the Far Southwest Side, and got a bachelor's degree in economics and finance at the University of Illinois at Chicago, where she remained for a master's in urban planning.

On her nightstand is a copy of "Fabulous Small Jews," a book of short stories about love and loss in Rogers Park.

As her hallway door opened, a puppy barked suspiciously and backed off.

"She's not used to seeing other people in here," said Garibay of the 8-month-old Shih Tzu named Peekheet, Hebrew for "clever."

Just as the issue with Garibay's ad was going off newsstands, she got a response. They chatted by phone for 45 minutes, and he left his number.

But she's looking for a family, not a man.

"He's lonely," she said.

It's a condition she knows well. She grew up in South Shore and didn't have close friends in high school. An only child, her parents are both dead, and she isn't in touch with relatives.

She married a fellow UIC student. Five years ago they divorced, a breakup she attributes to her growing interest in religion.

"He wanted a secular home," said Garibay. She said it was the second time she experienced such discord. There was a family memory of being Jewish on her mother's side, but she said her father didn't want anything to do with Judaism.

Wanting to establish roots, Garibay volunteered at a Jewish senior citizens' center. She attended classes and went through a conversion ritual at Anshe Emet Synagogue. Tamar is her Hebrew name; her birth name was Rosalie.

"She's a sweet, sweet person," said Rabbi Dena Bodian of Anshe Emet. "Any family who adopts her will find her a joy to be with."

Garibay hasn't gotten to the synagogue, or out of the house much at all in recent months, because of multiple health problems. Formerly an auditor with the state, she now makes do with social-security disability payments.

Her attempts to reach out to others haven't always gone well.

She lent money to a neighbor that didn't get repaid. The neighbor also enlisted Garibay in a quixotic attempt to reconnect with the woman's ex-boyfriend. That led to a back-porch scuffle, and Garibay wound up with a rap sheet.

She did community service at a shelter for homeless cats.

The episode contributed to her decision to place the ad.

"I guess I don't know how to tell someone I want to be a part of your family," she said.

She's not giving up hope. Maybe someone will still call.

"At night, I tell Peekheet, 'Don't worry,'" she said. "'We'll be OK. You'll see.'"

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