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December 2, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Dec. 19, 2003 /24 Kislev, 5764

What is the ultimate gift we can give our children on Chanukah?

By Rabbi Daniel Cohen

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Re-thinking priorities during the Festival of Lights. Hype aside, there really is a "gift that keeps on giving"


http://www.jewishworldreview.com | Pokemon, Furby or Rock 'n' Roll Elmo. Which gift will our child enjoy? Do we give one big gift at the beginning of Chanukah or one on each night? What do we do at a Chanukah party besides eat latkes (potato pancakes) and spin driedel?


For most American Jews, these questions are most pressing during the Festival of Lights.


Fortunately, lighting the Chanukah candles is the most popular Jewish ritual in our society. Unfortunately, though, it is a challenge to move beyond the display of a menorah in our windows and the latest gifts from Toys R Us. Chanukah is not a Jewish Christmas. In Chanukah we celebrate the defeat of the Greek army whose desire it was to hellinize the Jewish people.


Chanukah is anti-assimilationist.


Chanukah is the holiday of rediscovering our Jewish roots and the secret of our survival. If we have been to Paris and didn't see the Mona Lisa, we have not been to Paris. If we experience Chanukah without seeing the hidden lights, we have not experienced Chanukah to the utmost. Each Jewish holiday is a vehicle for spiritual growth — an energizer.


What is the ultimate gift we can give our children on Chanukah? What gift will nurture their Jewish identity, give them joy, and strengthen their character and family bonds? It is not a computer, even with a Chanukah program. The greatest gift is Shabbes (Sabbath).

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This year, the first and last nights of Chanukah coincide with Shabbes. The secret of our ability to light Chanukah candles despite efforts to squelch the flame of Judaism throughout Jewish history is the observance of Sabbath.


Material gifts have a limited shelf life. Sabbath — a spiritual gift — lives on. Sabbath affords the Jew the tools to spiritual fulfillment and meaning. Sabbath enriches our lives with infinite everlasting value.


Deep down, our children do not want our gifts — they want us. They want our time, attention and love. Sabbath is an oasis in time. Rather than lighting the Chanukah candles on Friday night and going out, light the Shabbat candles as well and stay home.


Spend Friday evening and Saturday talking with your family about the why of Jewish identity. Go to synagogue. Sing Sabbath and Chanukah songs. Identify how each member of the family brings light to your life. The Israeli writer Ahad Ha'am reflects: "More than the Jew has kept Sabbath, Sabbath has kept the Jew." It is the key to Jewish Renaissance.


The question is not have we been through another Chanukah, but has Chanukah been through us?


Ideas abound for making Chanukah a fun and meaningful holiday for children. But whether it is the latest Chanukah video, talking driedel or encouraging our children to give one of their gifts away to someone less fortunate, without personal commitment to Jewish living our innovative ideas will falter.


The essence of Jewish parenting is to teach our children important life values. Spending Sabbath with one's family in an interactive environment away from work, the mall or the television may seem like a hardship, but it is the ultimate statement of our priorities for our children.


We would not be lighting the candles today if we did not have an ancestor who observed the Sabbath and lived a committed Jewish life. The following short story crystallizes our challenge and opportunity.


A couple was going on a Caribbean vacation and leaving little Jessica with Bubby and Zayde. The grandparents were delighted to have their granddaughter in their home for the next two weeks.


Jessica learned quickly that there were new ground rules in her new home. Before and after eating she made blessings over her food. In the morning, she recited Modeh Ani, thanking G-d for restoring her soul and, in the evening, she recited the Shema.


Jessica was convinced that there were four people in the house, one of them invisible called G-d.


The suntanned parents returned to reclaim Jessica and thank the grandparents. As Jessica was leaving, she raised her hand to kiss the mezuzah and she was heard to say, "Goodbye, G-d. I will not be seeing You till next year."


At the end of the holiday each one of us will affirm: I have been through Chanukah. Each one of us will share Chanukah stories with family and our children will certainly cherish their gifts (for a short time). However, the question is not have we been through another Chanukah, but has Chanukah been through us?


Did we maximize the message of the holiday?


On Chanukah we can do it! Chanukah is a holiday of inner transformation and realizing our potential as Jewish people. The flames of the candles symbolize the spark of G-dliness within each one of us.


Chanukah is about miracles. Gazing at the Chanukah candles should energize us to defy what we ordinarily expect of ourselves and give our children and our homes the gift of the light of Sabbath. After Chanukah, we will be able to say to G-d, we welcome You home each and every Friday night.

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Rabbi Daniel Cohen is the spiritual leader of Denver's BMH-BJ synagogue and director of Jewish Links, a local community outreach program. To comment, please click here.

© 2003, The article first appeared in the Intermountain Jewish News