In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

Does forced procreation violate constitutional rights?

By Bonnie Miller Rubin and Angie Leventis Lourgos

Law and Order from Bigstock

Courts ponder what to do with frozen embryos once a couple has separated

JewishWorldReview.com |

C HICAGO— (MCT) He was a charming nurse in a northwest suburb. She was an attractive emergency room physician at a local hospital. For nine years, their work lives overlapped until, eventually, their friendship evolved into something more.

But five months into their romantic relationship, in March 2010, Karla Dunston was broadsided by a devastating diagnosis: non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. The window was already closing on the 39-year-old's fertility, and chemotherapy would slam it shut for good. She asked her boyfriend, Jacob Szafranski, if he would provide his sperm, which would be combined with her eggs to create embryos, allowing her to one day have a biological child, according to court documents.

One week later, the couple found themselves at Northwestern Hospital's fertility clinic, depositing genetic material to be frozen and later retrieved for in-vitro fertilization.

But the relationship unraveled two months after their trip to the clinic, and now their break-up could have repercussions that reach far beyond one couple. In a case before the Illinois Supreme Court, the Elgin man argues that he never agreed to give up a say in whether he becomes a parent, that forced procreation would violate his constitutional rights. His ex-girlfriend insists that she has the right to have her biological child, and she should control the destiny of the embryos.

As reproductive technology outpaces the law, the case is being watched by physicians and attorneys across the country. The Illinois Supreme Court is expected to weigh in on Szafranski v. Dunston — and the fate of three embryos cryo-preserved at Northwestern — later this month.

Looking back on his decision to participate, Szafranski, 32, told the ChicagoTribune: "It was a very emotional time and I was just trying to support Karla the best way I could."

The decision was made under duress, Szafranski said. Later, he was willing to find a way to give Dunston control of the embryos as long as the child could never be traced back to him. More recently, he concluded there were no guarantees of anonymity, and he decided he didn't want to procreate at all.

Dunston, in a court deposition, remembered those same initial, overwhelming days: "I thought about my different options, of using a sperm donor or someone that I knew for many years and that was a wonderful person. So I decided to go with someone that I thought was a wonderful person and I trusted."

Dunston is not seeking any support, financial or otherwise, from Szafranski and wants only the opportunity to have her biological child, her attorney said.

Not long ago, the idea that a couple could combine their sperm and eggs in a test tube to create embryos, then freeze, thaw and implant them and end up with a healthy baby seemed like science fiction. In 1985, 260 babies were born through assisted reproductive technology; in 2010, the number topped 61,000, according to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.

Yet, only about six state higher courts have addressed, with mixed results, what to do with frozen embryos once a couple has separated.

So, now people are watching to see how Illinois handles the issue. A Cook County trial court had awarded Dunston rights to the embryos. But Szafranski appealed and the higher court sent the case back, clarifying that the case centers on prior agreements rather than the interests of either potential parent.

Now legal experts are asking what constitutes those earlier pacts. Is it the medical consent form the couple signed requiring joint consent for any use of the embryos? Is it that Szafranski provided his genetic material and wrote to Dunston that he "wanted to help her have a baby?"

Or is it a co-parenting agreement drawn up by an attorney giving Dunston control over the embryos even without Szafranski's consent — a document that the couple never signed?

"What sets this case apart is that the existence and scope of the contract is less certain than in all other cases," said Judith Daar, a professor at Whittier Law School in Costa Mesa, Calif., and author of a textbook on assisted reproductive technology law. "The court can look to the medical forms, the unsigned co-parenting agreement or the parties conduct to determine the terms of any contract."

No doubt that when Dunston approached Szafranski, neither could have imagined such a complex legal quagmire. Given the urgency of starting cancer treatment, events moved quickly and on March 25, 2010 — one week after Dunston's diagnosis — Szafranski was handing over a sample at Northwestern.

The couple also signed a document stating "no use can be made of these embryos without the consent of both partners." They met with the clinic's attorney, Nidhi Desai, to discuss the legal ramifications of in vitro fertilization. A co-parent agreement would give Dunston sole control of the fertilized eggs but was never signed.

Szafranski said that initially he was honored by the request to help his girlfriend. But later he had deep reservations, said Szafranski, who broke up with Dunston in May 2010, ending the relationship after about seven months.

"This experience has been personally and emotionally damaging to me. It has profound implications for my life ...and I have the right not to be a father," he said. "It's something I take very seriously and feel very strongly about."

As predicted, Dunston's chemotherapy caused her to lose her fertility, according to court documents. But the now 41-year-old Chicago resident has been cancer-free for a year, her attorney said. Her cancer would not compromise her ability to carry a baby now, medical experts said.

Court records show she wrote to Szafranski in a September 2010 email: "I had a chance to use a random sperm donor and you took that away from me by agreeing to help. I trusted you and now you are trying to take away my chance of having a biological child. ... Those embryos mean everything to me, and I will fight this to the bitter end."


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Dunston, through her attorney, declined to be interviewed for this story.

About a year later, Szafranski appeared ready to relinquish the embryos, but only under specific terms, including the destruction of all records. The hospital refused to sign off on such an agreement, and the negotiations between the two former lovers ground to a halt.

"He promised her repeatedly — both verbally and in writing — that she could use the pre-embryos to have children, and then he changed his mind," said Dunston's attorney Abram Moore.

The reversal came after much soul-searching, Szafranski said. In a June 2010 email — three months after the Northwestern visit — he feared providing his genetic material could "haunt me for the rest of my life," he wrote. "Once I do find someone who I'm ready to love and have a family with, they will reject me on the basis that I could potentially have a child of my own ... with another women (sic) that I know nothing about and neither of which have I ever loved."

His attorney, Brian Schroeder, argued that this is a matter of "reproductive autonomy." Couples routinely change their minds about child-bearing — when to have kids, how many — and the courts should not be involved, he said.

Moreover, Schroeder cited Illinois' 72-hour "cooling-off" period for adoption, which gives a birth mother three days to retract her decision to give up her baby. "If you have the right to revoke consent for a child who is already born, why not at the time of creation? This is not like other contracts — it's not a car or a house — and for the appellate court to say that this is a matter of contract law is to dismiss the difference entirely."

But Dunston's attorney counters that Szafranski had the opportunity to change his mind before he gave his sperm and promised Dunston she could use the resulting embryos to have children.

"At this point, that sperm no longer exists. It has fertilized an egg and become something entirely different: a pre-embryo," Moore said. "It is now too late for him to back out of his promises."

In a similar case, a Pennsylvania appeals court last year awarded frozen embryos to a woman who hoped to give birth over the objection of her ex-husband, who wanted the embryos destroyed. Like Dunston, the ex-wife was believed to be infertile due to cancer treatments. The decision upheld the trial court ruling that the ex-wife's desire to have biological children outweighed the ex-husband's disinterest in becoming a father.

But high courts in other states have determined that parenthood cannot be thrust on an unwilling party. The Tennessee Supreme Court, for example, decided in 1992 that fatherhood would be a greater burden for the ex-husband than destroying the embryos would be for his ex-wife.

Now all eyes are on Illinois, as two people fight for their reproductive futures. The Supreme Court will decide later this month whether to hear the case and if a constitutional issue is at play, experts say.

But no one expects the case to put an end to all the legal wrangling over preserving fertility. Despite the vigilance of the courts and no matter how air-tight the laws and contracts, these types of dilemmas are bound to arise, explained Daar, who also sits on the American Society for Reproductive Medicine's ethics committee.

"Inevitably, there will be scenarios that we didn't contemplate, especially when you take into account the divorce rate, the number of IVF cycles performed annually and the fact that an embryo can remain in frozen storage for 20 years," Daar said. "We will continue to battle these matters on the legal front for years to come."


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