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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review July 22, 2010 / 11 Menachem-Av, 5770

Is America ready for a new ‘life stage’?

By Susan Reimer




http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | A recent New York Times Magazine story describing the 20s not only as a decade of growth and exploration but a full-fledged "life stage," like infancy or adolescence, has children and their parents churning with reactions ranging from "I told you so" to "harrumph."

Robin Marantz Henig described 20-somethings, so many of whom are not finding traction in education, work or romance, as not merely adrift but as butterflies in the cocoon stage.

This slouching toward adulthood is not a function of self-indulgent parents and a weak economy, she writes. Instead, it is a life stage best described as "emerging adulthood," one that will require the kind of institutional support that might soon drive social policy the way the "discovery" of adolescence changed the way we educate children and address the needs of teenagers.

On the sidelines of this debate are 20-somethings, and some 30-somethings, who finished college, got a job, found a mate and established a family and who now resent the fact that they missed out on an entire decade of lollygagging. Or they think this whole business is nonsense and that their younger brothers and sisters are wastrels and spoiled brats. Or they are in a fury with the stupid adults who think they understand them.

Also watching this discussion — which has been in the news for quite a while now — are parents, who are seeing their own dreams of retirement go up in smoke while learning that it is reasonable for their adult children to expect to be housed, fed and insured while they find themselves. All the while whining that the imaginary age 30 deadline is just sooooo much pressure!

There is good news in here for parents: It might not be our fault if our children seem irresponsible or self-involved. It might actually be neurological. Their pre-frontal cortex, which handles decision-making, is still catching up with the limbic system, where emotions come from and which exploded in adolescence. In fact, their brains might actually be 10 years behind.

I don't know about you, but that sounds like "off the hook" to me.

In her article, Ms. Henig suggest that if spending your 20s in self-exploration means you will make happier and more long-lasting choices in mates and work, then perhaps it is a good thing.

But if we are going to think of this as a legitimate life stage, like retirement, then we are going to have to straighten out some of our institutions, such as coordinating the ages at which young people can drink, vote, enlist, rent a car and be covered by their parents' insurance, she writes. And perhaps, she says, we will have to provide a stipend or a make-work program so the kids can support themselves during this developmental journey.

However, the fact that some of our children go straight to adulthood without dawdling suggests that this delayed start isn't essential — like puberty — but the function of all sorts of other factors, such as privilege or indulgent parents.

The lesson for the 20-somethings in all of this is one their parents' generation, the boomers, have long ago earned; that it is no fun to be lumped together and labeled the same.

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Susan Reimer is a columnist for The Baltimore Sun. Comment by clicking here.


Previously:

Paying for good behavior is worth every penny

He's on vacation, but she needs a break

Conan says what we wish we could

Body image issues get a new meaning

A spreadsheet for happiness? Thanks, but I'll take the wine



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