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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

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John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

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April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

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Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

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April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

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Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

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April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

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Jewish World Review Sept. 30, 2005 / 26 Elul, 5765

Old, er, reliable rules for aging

By Lori Borgman

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | The husband has once again violated the Rules for Aging. He went into details about my age with another man. Granted, he was a little man and only four-years-old, but still, you can appreciate my indignation.

We had loaners stay with us over the weekend, two little ones who belong to younger friends. A comment was made about me being on the short end of the spectrum and I said to the boy, ‘Yes I am kind of short, and you're kind of short, too, but you have many years ahead of you in which you can grow. I on the other hand am probably as tall as I'm going to get. ’

‘You might grow some, ’ he said. ‘How old are you? ’

‘How old do you think I am? ’

He struck a pose of utmost seriousness and said, ‘Are you 20?’

Amazed at the boy's keen eye and obvious intellect, I said, ‘Yes, I'm 20-plus. ’

‘She's 20-plus all right, ’ the husband interjected. ‘Do you want to know how old she really is? ’ (The man is so helpful at times, it is painful.) ‘She is as old as your dad and you and your sister put together. ’

The boy looked bewildered. In an attempt to clarify, I told the boy my actual age. His jaw dropped, his eyes bugged, and his face bore a look of utter horror.

We monitored him for further signs of trauma throughout the weekend, and with the exception of crying in his sleep, ‘Blow out the candles! Blow out the candles! ’ he appeared fine when we returned him to his parents.

Some years ago, I constructed four essential Rules for Aging. I have repeated them often to the husband, but what with short-term memory loss creeping in, he tends to forget. Let us review:

Rule No. 1: We don't talk about age. Ever. It's boring. Besides, age is largely irrelevant, allowing for two notable exceptions: You are being carded for a drink or submitting your photo to Willard Scott for placement on a Smucker's jam jar.

Rule No. 2: We don't talk about bodily functions. There is a tendency as people age to publicly discuss private matters such as internal plumbing. Bodily functions need be discussed only with your care giver, close family members, and your most intimate of friends. Katie Couric may have chosen to take a camera crew with her, but for the rest of us, what happens at the doctor's office, stays at the doctor's office.

Rule No. 3: We will continue to be snappy dressers. This might be a stretch, as neither of have us ever been particularly snappy dressers in the past, but the point is we will not be using age as an excuse to schlep. We will be current — or at least no more than five years behind contemporary fashion trends.

Rule No. 4: We're going to pay close attention to our table manners. We're not going to start slouching, eating directly from serving bowls, having breakfast standing at the kitchen counter and dinner watching Vanna flip letters. We will continue to use napkins, talk only between bites, and use forks starting from outside, and working in.

Oh yes, one more thing: Contrary to what the husband implied to our little friend, my picture won't be on a Smucker's jar anytime soon.

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