In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

Mayo Clinic Medical Edge: Parenting a child with anxiety

By Stephen Whiteside, Ph.D.

How not to make a bad situation worse

JewishWorldReview.com | DEAR MAYO CLINIC: My daughter is 11 and has always been a worrier, but it's getting worse. She checks her planner multiple times each night to make sure she's not forgetting any schoolwork, even though she's a great student. She often won't participate in activities because she's worried she'll get hurt or won't be able to do it well. Is there something I can do to help her, or do I need to take her to see a counselor? I don't want to make the situation worse by making her feel like she has a problem.

ANSWER: Your daughter's situation sounds similar to many children who struggle with anxiety. There are certainly ways to help her. You can start with some steps at home that may ease her worries. If those do not work, talk with her physician or a therapist for more help.

As you mention, parents often don't want to draw attention to their child's anxiety for fear it will upset the child more. While this may happen at first, the long-term benefits of effectively managing anxiety will likely outweigh any initial discomfort.

Start by having a conversation with your daughter. Emphasize that you're proud of how well she does at school and in her activities. Tell her that you are concerned, though, that her worries make it hard for her to enjoy herself. Talk with her about ways she may be able to reign in those worries.

First, explain to her that every time she rechecks her planner or avoids an activity, she misses a chance to learn that things often turn out OK without her worrying about them. Second, suggest that the two of you experiment together with ways to decrease her anxiety-related habits.

For example, instead of her checking her planner multiple times each evening, go over it once together. Confirm that she's completed her homework. Talk about questions or any problems with schoolwork she may have. Discuss any upcoming tests, projects or other school activities that may be of concern. Then put the planner away. If she goes to check it, gently ask her what's on her mind. If it's something you've already discussed, remind her that you are experimenting with overcoming worry. Encourage her to resist checking and see if the worries go away with time.

If she feels strongly that she needs to check her planner again, that's fine. The goal is to decrease the behavior. It will not stop completely right away. Strive to be reassuring and encouraging. Do not use punishment to try to force a change in her behavior.

To help her feel more comfortable with new activities, help your daughter find one activity she's interested in but has been hesitant to try. Have her give it a try and stay with it to the end. To help boost her confidence, at first it may be best to pick an activity that doesn't involve a high level of competition.


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Talk with her about the process of learning. Remind her that no one expects her to do well immediately when she's in a new activity, and that mistakes are part of learning. Even if things don't go well, if she sticks with the activity, she'll be able to better recognize her own ability to successfully manage difficult situations.

Working with your daughter to experiment with different behaviors and new ways of managing her anxiety will be hard at first. But for many children, it gets easier with practice and encouragement. If these steps do not seem to help, make an appointment to talk your child's doctor. He or she can either help with treatment directly or put you in touch with a psychologist, therapist or counselor in your area with experience managing childhood anxiety. -- Stephen Whiteside, Ph.D., Psychiatry and Psychology, Mayo Clinic, Rochester, Minn.

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