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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

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April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

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Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review August 29, 2005 / 24 Av, 5765


By Marty Nemko

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Since I was a young child, I have been afraid of dying young. While this has cast a pall over my life, it has yielded a silver lining: it has made me appreciate time.

I've had many years to acquire strategies for making the most of each moment. These are the most important:

Have a little voice always whispering in my ear, "Is this the best use of my time?" That translates to thoughts such as, "Is there a more time-effective way to write this column?" Is it really worth taking the time to go to my cousin's wedding?" "Golf is fun but it's too much of a time suck. So's TV."

Have a personal mission statement and allocate my time accordingly. Mine is: "To use my best skill—the ability to communicate verbally and in writing—to help people with their work lives, to expose higher education as America's most overrated product, and to advocate for the most unfairly maligned group: men."

I used that personal mission statement in crafting my career, and on the micro level, in choosing which discretionary projects to take on.

Work to the sweet spot of time-effectiveness. For example, if, in writing a column, I could do a good job in a half day, a very good job in a day, and an excellent job in two days, I'll probably aim for getting it done in a day. Why wouldn't I shoot for excellence? Because I could write a whole other very good column in that second day, and I believe two very good columns does more for the world than one excellent one. Besides, I enjoy the feeling of having completed something—it feels better to have, in two days, gotten two columns done, not just one.

Of course, occasionally, as with the book I just finished writing, The Silenced Majority, which I am now trying to get published, I've spent all the time necessary to make it as good as possible. Getting it published is important to me and its thesis is controversial—that men and boys deserve better treatment in the schools, colleges, media, employment, and government policy—so the only chance of getting it published is to make it as excellent as I can.

Work at home. Most people who live in the suburbs waste an hour or two of their day's best hours merely getting to and from work. So, it is non-negotiable for me to work at home.

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Be kind in a time-efficient way. My dear neighbor, Ray Mattoon, was an Army colonel and after he retired, got a PhD in philosophy. I asked him what he thought the meaning of life is. He said, "Be kind. That's it." But kindness usually takes lots of time: volunteering for good causes, nursing a friend back to health, etc. How do I reconcile my desire to be kind with my desire to make the most of my time? I generally confine my kindness to acts requiring little time. For example, when I see someone doing something praiseworthy, I make a point of complimenting them, whether it's a supermarket clerk who packs my bags carefully, a colleague who makes a good point, or the Earthlink technical support person who calmed me down.

Advice I'd Give My Child

Young people tend to think money is more important than time. It's not.

P.S. Any of you wish I spent more time working on this column?

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