In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review July 28, 2014 / 1 Menachem-Av, 5774

Away from the tyranny of the self

By Kathryn Lopez

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | "Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency," the late poet Maya Angelou reflected in an interview with USA Today in 1988. "We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous or honest."

What a poem Angelou might have written about Meriam Ibrahim, who appeared with her family this week in the company of Pope Francis, having just escaped Sudan. The woman had been sentenced to death for apostasy as a pregnant mother and was later imprisoned with her young son. She was asked to denounce her Christianity, and she refused. She gave birth in prison, was eventually released under international pressure, and rearrested on a travel-document charge, which looked to most of us like a government trying to save face.

Clearly, Ibrahim is courageous. But so is the mother standing next to you on the train as you read this on your iPad, or so many women whom you know or encounter during any given day. Motherhood requires vulnerability, sacrifice and generosity, with ingratitude often being the response.

Courage comes in many manifestations. I just spent a weekend with a group actually called Courage. Its annual conference is a gathering of Catholics who have struggled with same-sex attraction. They are not "praying the gay away" as some might caricature -- some members are quite open about their continuing longings -- but they are committed to chastity, and happy to be so.

As demonstrated in a powerful new film, "Desire of the Everlasting Hills," (which can be viewed for free at everlastinghills.org), the conversion they seek goes so much deeper than sexual attraction and really has to do with humanity and knowledge of the self. Lives lived in faith are not without pain, but they are lives often filled with hope, and, yes, love. Even if there might not be three kids, a dog and a picket fence involved.

Attending a Courage conference is an immersion in a counterculture. Rather than delving inward -- in a culture of I-everything, where we are forever being drawn into the bottomless well of the self -- every man and woman I met at the Courage gathering seeks to go outward.

One of the speakers at the conference was Immaculee Ilibagiza, a Rwandan genocide survivor. Ilibagiza talked about gratitude: "How many blessings a day do we have that we forget to be grateful about?" She told people beset by despair: "Be grateful for one thing -- one light -- and hold on to that." And as someone who forgave the people who tried to kill her and killed so many people around her, she emphasizes: "Forgiveness is not about forgetting -- or moving mountains -- but giving yourself permission to see others as human beings who fall."

The Arabic letter for "N" has become ubiquitous on my Twitter feed as of late. In Iraq, it was the letter that would mark the houses of Christians as they were stigmatized and made to flee the country -- "N" for Nazarene. Christians throughout the world have changed their avatars or made use of the "#IAmNazarene" hashtag in solidarity with Iraqi Christians and other persecuted Christians throughout the world.

This persecution, in Iraq, Sudan and around the world, was the backstory to Ibrahim's meeting withe pope.

You may not have to flee your homeland, but who doesn't struggle? Imagine if we all had the courage to live not despite struggle, but with it, drawing strength and inspiration from it. We might be guided by a hope of eternal life or simply a better world.

Our lives can fall into the lie of "us v. them" or "near vs. far." In truth, we have more commonalities than differences, whatever our economic bracket, nationality or gender preference. If we can break out of self-obsession, we might just find the kind of freedom that comes from consistently virtuous living. It might even become contagious!


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