In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review July 29, 2013/ 22 Meanachem-Av, 5773

A domestic scene in the age of life with no privacy

By Mitch Albom

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | The idea was simple. Hide a camera. Film someone in an embarrassing situation. At the end, have a nice guy come out and say "Smile" and tell the victim it was a setup.

They called it "Candid Camera," and it was so successful as a TV show that it ran, in some form, for more than half a century.

It's off the air now. Instead, we have YouTube, where anybody can create their own "Candid Camera" moment. Last week, a video surfaced and instantly went viral; it had people wondering just how close the person secretly filming you might be.

Maybe no further than your wedding vows.

The video was taken by a married Tennessee man named Jim Mongiat, who filmed his wife, Whitney, throwing a temper tantrum in the car. The impetus for the tantrum was Jim's refusal to take Whitney to the lake on a hot Saturday. She kicks and screams -- literally -- slamming her feet against the dashboard and yelling that she needs cigarettes, that she never gets her way and, multiple times, that she wants to go "to the LAAAAAAKE!"

It is not flattering. It's a training film for staying single. It is hard to listen to, hard to watch.

And hard to fathom.

Because it was put up, for the world to see, by the man who just 14 months ago, told this woman, "I do."

You wonder if "for better or worse" was part of the ceremony.

Now, I don't know much about the Mongiats, other than their blitz of recent media reports, in which she claimed he tricked her and he claimed he had no regrets because the whole world could see what he had to put up with.

But I do know something about being married. And anyone who is in that club can tell you there are many moments where you are glad there is no camera around. Every couple can look childish, temperamental, mean, loud or obnoxious if you catch them at the wrong time. It is the reason we used to have this thing called "privacy."

Look it up, kids.

It's in the section with "VCR" and "manners."

Today, there is no such thing as privacy. Cell phones, video surveillance, even flying toy planes with loaded cameras ensure that you never know when you are being filmed.

But being alone in the car with your spouse used to be a moment you could trust. Not anymore. Mr. Wait-Till-My-Friends-See-This has ruined that one. You wonder how he managed to capture his wife's meltdown while driving. They have laws against phone calls or texting behind the wheel.

I guess we need a no-filming law as well.

What's truly sad about this is that our culture now leads people to treat a million strange eyeballs as judge and jury. People post videos of themselves performing to gauge reaction -- even though the people watching mostly laugh and deride. They post unflattering videos of celebrities in hopes the public beast will roar. They post impassioned diatribes on this or that, in hopes of swaying people they will never meet.

In such a world, all you once held dear is potential fodder. So marriage may no longer be between two people, it's between two people and the millions who can watch and judge it. What did Jim Mongiat hope to accomplish? He had to know this would likely end badly (the latest report is that they are divorcing). Was that what he wanted all along?

If so, have the decency to face your spouse and ask for it. Don't go to the town square and unpack her dirty laundry -- especially when you're not revealing your own.

You wonder what went so wrong so fast in this marriage that one party enjoyed total humiliation of the other. Or maybe this guy doesn't see it as humiliation. Maybe he sees life as something we lead for the entertainment and judgment of others.

Which is even sadder.

The lesson learned is this: Be careful with your temper. And be careful where you allow yourself to be human --because you never know who might be filming, including the person on the pillow next to you. In "Candid Camera," they used to come from behind a wall, a nice guy said, "Smile" and would presumably ask you to sign a release.

But "Candid Camera" is gone. And when it comes to using the world as a stage, there is little smiling and a real shortage of nice guys.

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