In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review June 9, 2014 / 11 Sivan, 5774

Youth in a void

By Kathryn Lopez

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | The movie "The 40-Year-Old Virgin" has been brought up countless times when discussing the life and death and murders of Elliot Rodger, who killed seven people including himself last week in Santa Barbara, California.

The movie reference was a "guaranteed laugh line" in our "toxic culture," one of my interlocutors put it, understood to be conveying the killer as a "dweeby, out-of-touch loser," as another emphasized.

Is it any wonder that the worst thing in the world for Rodgers was that he was not having sex?

"Sex has become a sort of replacement G0D, an idol of our Internet age," says Dr. Aaron Kheriaty, the associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California Irvine School of Medicine, observes.

In the writings he left behind, Rodger pointed to his parents' divorce and his first viewing of porn as perversely formative. "I was shocked beyond words," he says viewing pornographic images at 11. "(T)he sight filled me with strong and overwhelming emotions ... I was traumatized. My childhood was fading away. Ominous fear swept over me."

In a culture that doesn't value men as protectors and fathers, all there really was for Rogers to hope for was sex. "This makes perfect sense, because deep in even the most deluded and anesthetized heart, we cannot fail to know that sex is meant to connect us to an Other," Ed Mechmann, director of public policy and the Safe Environment Office at the Archdiocese of New York says. When Rodger couldn't get what he wanted, there was an "existential anger" about him, "not just against his situation but even against who and what he is," Mechmann comments. "And so he tried to destroy all that reminded him of the hurt he couldn't get rid of or make sense of."

"Our children are growing up in a split-personality culture. We tell them to be 'good, kind people' but they see the adults in their lives -- on TV, in movies, on their computers, in their own families -- using and discarding people, moving seamlessly in and out of marriages and sexual relationships," says Hilary Towers, a developmental psychologist.

This is the "throwaway culture" Pope Francis has often decried. Why are boys and girls right now sitting in bedrooms with computers their parents gave them, looking at porn or sexting classmates and strangers?

In an interview with Oprah Winfrey, Maya Angelou, the acclaimed poet who recently passed away, expressed awe at her knowledge that G0D loved her. It was humbling and overwhelming to her. She didn't have an easy life, but she was thankful for it, and it made her appreciate others' lives. In imperfect ways, she would be the first to admit, she saw people a little bit through the eyes of G0D. At the very least, she saw a connectedness, a common dignity among all humans. In another interview, she said that when she "internalized" the love of G0D, she became courageous. "I dared to do anything that was a good thing," she said.

How can today's children -- growing up in a shallow, exploitative culture that is raising them in place of their self-obsessed parents -- ever see what Angelou did, because she had a family that taught her about religion and embraced her -- and her unborn child -- when she found herself 16 and pregnant?

What will we do and say, and how will we act in response to the violence, death and alienation that pervade all sectors of Western culture? Create a hashtag to decry victimhood? Or reach out in love to a young man or woman who can't keep his or her eyes off of a screen? Goods and games and drugs won't do it. Being fully present to others (in parenting, teaching and ministering) will.


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