In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review May 21, 2012/ 29 Iyar, 5772

Not being dead is one thing. Living this way is something else

By Mitch Albom

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | He is a famous gospel singer, a TV star, a pastor who gave the stirring eulogy at Whitney Houston's funeral.

That didn't stop several men from attacking him at a Detroit gas station in broad daylight Wednesday, roughing him up and stealing his new car, his money and his expensive watch, leaving him with an injured hand and torn pants.

"I was like, this isn't happening," Marvin Winans, founder of Detroit's Perfecting Church, told a WXTV (Channel 7) anchor after the incident. "Come on. We give you money. We help."

It didn't matter what good Winans' church has done. The attackers took what they wanted. Winans later maintained, in the grand scheme of things, he was grateful to only have suffered minor injuries.

"I'm blessed and fortunate," he said.

A similar thing happened a few months earlier to an 86-year-old World War II veteran named Aaron Brantley. He had just bought gas on Detroit's west side. A father of eight, a grandfather of 18, Brantley had a Bible on his front seat from the Bible study he attended that morning.

Didn't matter. He was attacked from behind by a young man, who drove off in Brantley's car. Brantley, his leg broken, crawled on the pavement as customers passed by, not bothering to help.

When interviewed, Brantley also appeared grateful. "I could be dead, because that's what they do to you these days," he told one TV crew. "They don't care about your life."

In both of these cases, and in multiple other less-high profile carjacking victims, the attitude was gratitude.

And it is understandable.

But it won't solve things.

We may have reached a point in Detroit where surviving a carjacking is reason to praise G0d. And, yes, worse things could happen. But what IS happening is insane.

And it can't be tolerated.

We can't just be grateful that we weren't killed, that we "only" had our leg broken, that we "only" lost a vehicle or that we were "only" terrorized and now freak out at performing the simplest public task in Detroit -- like pumping gas or going to an ATM.

Not being dead is one thing.

Living this way is something else.

Twenty-six years ago, I was on my way to Opening Day at Tiger Stadium when I stopped into a Southfield dry cleaners. I was greeted by a man with a gun. He was robbing the place.

I was lucky, yes. I survived the event. For months I had nightmares about the gun that was pointed at me. I wondered what would have happened if the man had been startled or lost his temper. Certain friends told me to move, to leave the state.

I chose to stay. I chose to believe that the incident was not the norm. I chose to fight the stereotype, and to not let the worst amongst us pull everything to ruin.

Winans may be doing the same when he says to the Channel 7 anchor, "I refuse to be afraid of us." But when the well-known and the unknown are robbed not at night but in broad daylight, not in some darkened alley but at a place of business, not all alone but in full view of other people, then other action must be taken.

Some citizens are screaming for mandatory security at places like gas stations. Others point to a severe lack of police in a financially strapped city.

But reportedly these carjackers are young people (the Winans and Brantley alleged robbers were all under 22). Which means not too long ago, they were being raised, presumably, by a parent or guardian. Either those adults take more responsibility, or this will only get worse. Either our communities act like communities, or this will only get worse. Either we citizens watch out for each other -- and don't look the other way -- or this will only get worse.

"Our young people have to find their purpose in life," Winans, 54, said in a released statement. "It has to be bigger than sitting in a gas station waiting to rob innocent people."

But someone has to teach you that from a young age. If the parents or guardians of the carjackers are reading this, can you honestly say you did your best?

Because there is no guarantee here. No safety net. We can easily become a city where the attitude is gratitude for surviving a simple day. Do you know what they call that?

A war zone.

Is that how we want to live?

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