In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review May 9, 2008 / 4 Iyar 5768

Miley's picture shows a quitter

By Lori Borgman

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | The buzz over the seductive picture of 15-year-old Miley Cyrus is a story about quitting.

In the beginning, Miley Cyrus really was the good girl. She was fresh, young and wholesome, much to the delight of Disney, the bean counters who drooled over the Disney coffers and the millions of young girls who watched her popular show.

But time passed and being fresh, young and wholesome grew tiring. The challenge of standing apart from the masses became less a badge of honor and more of an albatross. Who wants to be good when being bad is the new good?

Miley quit. She quit being original in exchange for the sameness of the teen celebs who have gone before. She swapped out innocent and fresh for the hard look of used goods. She joined a legion of other confused teens slinking down the path with the signs marked Vamp.

She quit long before the Vanity Fair photo shoot. Her self-respect quit when she began posting pictures on the Internet, pictures like the one showing her kissing another girl, the same kind of picture 5,000 other girls have posted in their quest to be different.

Her brain quit when she posed for pictures exposing her bra (that's how all your great women of note get their start, right?) and snapshots of her scantily clad body draped across her boyfriend.

I use the word boyfriend loosely — the kid looks to be about 12 and has a deer-in-the-headlights look. It is a look that says he is frightened at the sight of all that flesh — or he hears his mother calling.

Miley's parents quit, too. No thinking parents leave their 15-year-old daughter with celebrity photographer Annie Leibowitz. She's hardly Norman Rockwell. Leibowitz is known for posing her subjects naked and half-naked.

Leibowitz quit, too. How much easier to do the cliché, as opposed to something fresh and original.

And don't give me the line about it being art. It's soft porn. Kids with a can of mousse, a box of 24 shades of eye shadow and a digital camera make these same tawdry images every day.

But back to the parents: Surely someone noticed something askew. The over-the-top makeup, the cunning pose, the plumped lips, the forced pout.

Didn't anyone hear a siren? A distant car alarm? The soft tick of a small studio bomb?

But the parents left before the shoot was over. A lot of parents leave when the kids are 15. They don't leave physically, but they quit parenting. It's too hard. The challenges are too tough, the encounters too intense, the arguing too loud.

It's easier to walk away. Do what you want, here's a credit card, make your own decisions.

Perhaps Miley's parents knew that if they stayed, they'd have to say no.

It's hard to say no as a parent these days. No to the party, the coed sleepover, the questionable friends, the provocative clothes, everyone else's mother, the celebrity photographers, the magazine editors.

It's easier to quit.

We've all quit at something some time or another.

If there is anything good about quitting, it is this: Once you survey the wreckage and gather your thoughts, you can always get up and try again.

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