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December 2, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

How to help kids accept the poor decisions of others

By Courtnie Erickson




We each have the ability to choose right and wrong but many of us choose poorly. Here are four ways to help you teach your children to love the sinner and avoid making poor decisions


JewishWorldReview.com | We were each blessed with the gift of agency. We have the ability to make our own choices, whether they are good or bad. Unfortunately, many of us know someone who has made poor decisions and is winding down a dark and depressing path. These people may be friends or neighbors or they may even be an immediate family member.

As our children grow up, they begin to recognize the decisions others make and many questions may begin to surface. When your children see close family members and friends making poor decisions such as participating in drugs and alcohol, being mentally or physically abusive, dropping out of school, etc., they may begin to question this behavior and feel it is OK, or they may become judgmental and distance themselves from that individual.

As parents, it is our responsibility to teach our children not to judge the actions of others. It is our job to teach them what is right and wrong and how to maintain a healthy relationship with someone, even though we may not be pleased with their choices and actions. Here are a few ways you can help your children accept and love others, even when they are making poor and disheartening choices.

SET CLEAR EXPECTATIONS
It is important that children are taught the difference between wrong and right at a young age. They need to understand that certain things are wrong, no matter who is participating in them. For example, smoking, drinking and drugs are bad, there is no good in them. Viewing pornography is another action that has no good in it, yet it is becoming increasingly popular, especially among youth.

Teach your children what you expect of them. If you don't want them around drugs and alcohol, tell them. Set rules for when children are with their friends and let them know the types of behaviors that will make you sad and upset if they participate in them.


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EXPLAIN THE CONSEQUENCES
To every action, there is a consequence. Take the time, especially when children are young, to teach them this basic principle and help them understand there are both good and bad consequences. For example, if you eat your vegetables, fruits and other healthy food, your body will function properly and have an easier time fighting off illnesses. If you jump off the couch, you could land and hurt yourself. Each action has a consequence.

When children see others make a bad choice, take the time to teach your children about the consequence of that action. For example, if your child sees someone smoking, explain the health consequences of smoking such as it damages different organs in the body, causes cancer and can eventually kill that individual. However, be sensitive to the situation. If your children are asking questions about family members, be mindful of how you respond to avoid offending the person who has made that decision.

LET YOUR CHILD FAIL
Sometimes mistakes are our best teachers. We can't shield our children from everything. They need to have experiences in their life that push them to be better. In some situations, let your children fail. If they see others making a poor decision and they press forward with that same choice, let them reap the consequences and make the mistake.



BE AN EXAMPLE
Take control of your own life and the choices you make. Your children look to you for guidance and as an example of how to live life. When they see you making poor decisions, they will most likely do the same. By being an example, you can help your children avoid falling into bad habits and making poor decisions. Your children will also have an easier time withstanding temptations when they come. They will know who to spend their time with and who will only bring them down. The impact you have as a parent is vital in the person your children grow up to become. Here are some tips on value-based parenting.

In our society today, there are people all around us making poor choices. These individuals may play a critical role in our children's lives but through proper teaching, instruction and mentoring, you can help your children accept those who make wrong decisions. You can teach your children to withstand the temptations that tear them down and help them accept and love everyone, no matter that individual's actions.

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