In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review April 7, 2014 / 7 Nissan, 5774

Player right to be at baby's opening day

By Mitch Albom

JewishWorldReview.com | At some point, most kids ask their fathers, "Were you there when I was born?"

I know my father was. I've heard the story many times. Dad drives Mom to the hospital. He sits in the waiting room. Doctor comes out, takes one look at my father and says, "I see where he gets his ears."

Every kid should have a delivery story. And now, a newborn named Noah Murphy will have one, too.

Noah's father, Daniel, a second baseman for the New York Mets, missed Opening Day this past week to be there for the child's birth.

And the next day.

And the next.

Three days. Two games. If I were that kid, I'd feel pretty special. But to listen to some New York media critics, you'd think Murphy committed treason.

"You're a Major League Baseball player. You can hire a nurse," decried Mike Francesa, an afternoon host at WFAN radio.

Francesa's colleague, Boomer Esiason, a former NFL quarterback and a morning host for WFAN, went even further. "Quite frankly," he said on his show, "I would have said, 'C-section before the season starts. I need to be at Opening Day.' "

We need to remind these guys of two things.

1) It is a child.

2) It is the Mets.


But no matter what the team, since when did playing a baseball game — Opening Day, second day or any other day — outweigh perhaps the most important thing that will happen to you in life? This was Murphy's first baby. His wife was in Florida . He flew from New York to be with her and stayed two days — as he is permitted to do under baseball's collective bargaining agreement.

And he was back in the lineup for the Mets' third game Thursday. They lost that one with him — just as they lost the first two without him.

"My wife and I discussed it, and we felt the best thing for our family was for me to try to stay for an extra day — that being Wednesday — due to the fact that she can't travel for two weeks," Murphy told the media. "It's going to be tough for her to get up to New York for a month. ... She had surgery (she actually needed a cesarean section) and she was wiped. Having me there helped a lot ... to take some of the load off."

Murphy didn't address his critics. Why should he? When a player misses two days with a sore groin, nobody says a word.

But being there when your child is born — and staying an extra day with your wife? That's not important? Murphy didn't break a single rule. Baseball defended him. His manager defended him.

But media critics pummeled him.


Esiason later apologized for his comments. Generally a good guy, he must have realized that suggesting your wife undergo surgery just so that you can be out there fielding grounders was a pretty insulting concept.

(By the way, what if you did that, and Opening Day was rained out? How stupid would you feel then?)

The sad thing is, many men agreed with the criticism. They saw Murphy as soft. Yes, I'm aware that in the past, women went to the rice fields, delivered their babies and went back to work. We also once used leeches. Anybody want to go back to that?

And please don't bring up the money. "These athletes are getting paid so much — they shouldn't miss a game!" It's all relative. Sure, some players earn $100,000 per nine innings. That's not normal. But neither is a business bringing in $1 million in ticket sales for a single performance.

I wonder whether people remember that the U.S. actually passed something two decades ago called the Family and Medical Leave Act, which entitles most workers (men or women) to take off up to 12 unpaid weeks for a newborn. Yet men feel pressured for giving more than a perfunctory appearance.

"What are you going to do?" Francesa opined on the air. "I mean you are going to sit there and look at your wife in a hospital bed for two days?"

I guess the idea of being part of a family is not manly enough when compared to really important things, like shagging fly balls.

Well, here's some news: Sports isn't war, we just market it that way. Sports isn't life, we just sell it that way.

Life is life; it remains precious and magnificent, and years from now, when radio shows are long forgotten, Noah Murphy will be telling people how his major league dad skipped two games to be with him.

Meanwhile, here is Francesa's memory of his son Harrison's birth: "Harrison was born at 9 in the morning. I worked that day. ... I didn't have anything to do."

Which story would you rather tell?

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