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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

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Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review April 17, 2006 / 19 Nissan, 5766

When the bliss ends, have a plan

By Jan L. Warner & Jan Collins

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Q: I am 68, and my wife is 58. I am retired and receive income from both Social Security and my military pension. She is unemployed. After 35 years of marriage, she has left and says she wants alimony and property. Will the court consider my monthly Social Security check in giving her support? How about in dividing property?

A: While the Social Security Act provides that monthly payments are not subject to garnishment, attachment and other legal processes, there is an exception to this rule when it comes to payment of child support and alimony obligations. "Child support and alimony obligations" have been defined to include attorney's fees, interest and court costs depending on the wording of a decree issued by a court with jurisdiction. Therefore, your Social Security payments will be considered to be income to you when it comes to your wife's claim for alimony, but not when it comes to dividing property. And for those of you who have children, most state child support guidelines include Social Security as a source of income in making the calculations.

Q: After 40-plus years of marriage and three grown children, I have had it with my husband. He comes home at 8 p.m. on the weekdays after several drinks at the office, eats supper, sits in his chair, goes to sleep, gets up the next morning and goes to work. On the weekends, he plays golf and leaves me alone or watches television and expects me to wait on him and feed him and his friends. We haven't had a meaningful conversation in years.

I am 67, in relatively good health, and have a college degree, but I have not been employed outside the home for years. He is an engineer six years younger than me. We have a relatively nice home, cars and some investments. He has a retirement plan; I don't. When my father died four years ago, I inherited land and money that my husband insisted I put in his name. He refuses to leave or go to counseling. I saw a lawyer who told me that if I left, I would be a deserter. Help.

A: While the legal answer to your cry for help will depend on the law of your state of residence, the practical answer is the same no matter where you live: Unless there is a clear-and-present danger that makes staying in the home a danger to you, before you walk out the door, make sure you have a plan in place.

In some states, you must be able to prove a ground for divorce or good reason for leaving in order to avoid a charge of desertion; in others, not. Regardless, if the marriage is over, especially at your age, you should not make the drastic decision to leave until you get your economic house in order.

When you put your inheritance into your joint names, you transmuted what otherwise would have been a separate asset into a marital asset, which must be dealt with. Your husband's professional practice or business should be valued. Make yourself a budget of what it will cost you to live alone. Contact a real estate agent and become familiar with the cost of various apartment, condominium and housing alternatives. Find out how you will handle the cost of your medical bills that are not covered by Medicare, not to mention long-term care insurance.

Consider contacting a financial planner to help you develop an outline of what you and your husband own and what kind of income you should get from your share of the assets.

And remember: If you purchase a home or automobile, you will have less money that can be invested and earn for you. While we understand that you feel you need to leave, these decisions are not to be taken lightly, especially if you are not prepared financially to make the move.

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JAN L. WARNER received his A.B. and J.D. degrees from the University of South Carolina and earned a Master of Legal Letters (L.L.M.) in Taxation from the Emory University School of Law in Atlanta, Georgia. He is a frequent lecturer at legal education and public information programs throughout the United States. His articles have been published in national and state legal publications. Jan Collins began co-authoring Flying SoloŽ in 1989. She has more than 27 years of experience as a journalist, writer, and editor. To comment or ask a question, please click here.


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