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Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

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Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

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Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

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April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

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Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

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April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

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Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

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The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review March 23, 2009 / 27 Adar 5769

Talking to a ghost

By Mitch Albom

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | You want to scream. But screaming never stops a drunk.

You want to cry. But crying never stops a drunk. You want to reason, to show statistics — but if statistics could keep a suspected drunk from getting behind a wheel, we might not be burying four teenagers.

Instead, there are four funerals and emotional vigils and grieving parents and weeping students in Detroit all because one woman had to get behind a wheel, according to police, after a drinking binge with a blood alcohol level nearly three times the legal limit.

You want to say, "Didn't she know the consequences? Didn't she realize what she was doing? At what point — with what laws — will these people get the message?"

And I'm afraid the answer is: never.

Because you cannot scare a drunk, you cannot threaten a drunk, a drunk will find a way to do what he or she wants and to get what he or she needs, and while that same person sober might never kill someone's child, being drunk means you are not the same person, and therefore are capable of almost anything.

A drunk doesn't think about jail time.

A drunk doesn't think about funerals.

So when the lawyer for Frances Dingle — who, police said, this past week, plowed her speeding van into another car and killed four young people — tells the public she is not a monster, I believe him.

Because she probably isn't — when she's sober.

And that is the fatal difference.

The question is what do we do? Do we become a country like Japan, where you can go straight to jail if caught impaired behind the wheel, and where as little as one beer can get you busted?

Well, yes, that would help. But you still need police to enforce these laws. And you can't have a cop at every bar, frat house and private party.

How about going after the providers of the booze? Make them as culpable as the inebriated drivers themselves?

Well, sure, but you'll get arguments from people who provide the booze, saying, "I didn't know he was driving" or, "He said he had a cab coming." Does every patron need a private bartender?

That leads us to the car itself. How about a device that everyone must pass in order to start a car — something you breathe into, etc.? Good idea. But nondrinkers will complain about the inconvenience. Carmakers will complain about the cost. Civil rights zealots will call it an invasion. And drunks will figure a way to get around it.

That brings us back to the alcohol industry itself. And don't expect any help there. In a nation where marijuana is illegal and the tobacco industry has forked over billons, the booze business remains totally untouched. You don't see it shelling out a fortune for all the lives it has ruined. You don't even see beer commercials banned from television, the way cigarette ads are, even though you can argue alcohol does more harm than smoking.

No, the liquor lobby is too strong and the bar and restaurant business too vast for lawmakers to attack the real problem — drinking in our daily life. We drink to hide from problems. We drink because we're depressed. We drink because we think it's cool. We drink because we are taught to drink.

And then, every few months, we have a week like this past week, and more head-shaking than a city should endure, and four young lives are snuffed before they bloom, and everyone turns to the mug shot of the suspect, a dazed and worn-looking 47-year-old woman with a reported history of substance abuse, who should have been stopped but wasn't, who shouldn't have driven but did, and we ask, "How could you do this?"

But the person who did it is gone, until the next flood of alcohol, and so you are talking to a ghost.

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