In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review March 9, 2009 / 13 Adar 5769

Death at sea both sad, incomplete

By Mitch Albom

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | And then he's gone.

Corey Smith was a professional football player. He played in Detroit. When journalists entered the locker room after a Lions game, they scattered to get quotes. Now and then they went to Smith. I did it. I did it without thinking. I played my role, Smith played his. A notepad. A question. An answer.

And then he's gone.

Oh, you get used to that in sports. Players get traded. They get injured. But Corey Smith went fishing last weekend, on a boat off Florida's gulf coast, and he never came back. The boat tipped over, the seas were rough, hours passed, and by the time rescuers arrived, three of the four passengers — including Smith — were lost.

Not traded. Not cut.

He's here.

And then he's gone.

I have been trying to wrap my arms around this since the news broke and journalists began scrambling. Some wanted details. Some wanted a culprit. Some insisted — still insist — on re-creating the final, brutal minutes of the lives of the apparent victims, Marquis Cooper, Will Bleakley and Smith. Who let go first? Who took off a lifejacket?

I have been more stung by the thought that someone I met — not a friend, not a close associate, just someone I spoke with a few times — suddenly could be whisked away, not even a body to confirm the death.

He's here.

Then he's gone?

Ron Del Duca suffers this very thought. He is — was — Smith's agent and friend. He spoke to him the night before the fishing excursion. They were planning free-agency trips a few days later.

"It's like an episode of 'The Twilight Zone,' " he says. "I keep waiting for the TV to be shut off and ... Corey Smith's back."

How painful must this be for guys like Del Duca, and for Smith's family and friends and for the loved ones of the other two victims?

It's one thing to make hospital visits, whisper with doctors and brace yourself for a slow decay or a sad ending.

But a flipped boat? A watery grave?

He goes fishing?

And then he's gone?

Corey Smith, 29, was an undrafted player who got one phone call from an NFL team coming out of North Carolina State, Del Duca said. Smith made that team, the Tampa Bay Buccaneers, as a defensive lineman, and he won a Super Bowl ring. He played the last three seasons with the Lions, earning kudos for his toughness and dedication.

"Corey didn't drink, he didn't smoke," Del Duca says. "He's just a real humble — it's kind of overused but — blue-collar guy."

One time in the off-season, Del Duca called Smith and asked if, as a favor, next time he was near his home state of Virginia, he'd consider talking to a high school football team.

And Smith said, "How about tomorrow?"

The next day, spending his own money, Smith flew to Virginia, visited the team, gave a clinic, then, as a bonus, spent an hour with a second-grade class answering questions. And he told his agent, "I had a blast."

"That's the kind of guy he was," Del Duca says. "Unfortunately, it takes something like this to show these guys exist."

It shouldn't have to. Everyone exists. Everyone is just a freakish accident away from being taken. But Smith's case — nothing to look at, to hold onto, no body in the casket. How do you process that?

A writer once postulated what happens if an astronaut dies on the moon and is never brought back? Is it the same as a death on Earth? Does the soul know where to go? You wonder similarly about death in the hole of the sea. And you realize how strange and fragile life really is, that someone you passed or spoke to at work could so quickly be physically erased from our world.

"If this teaches anything," Del Duca said, "it's that if you have somebody you care for and you're meaning to call them or see them? Do it now. Drive to their house. Pick up the phone. See them. Call them. Don't wait."


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