In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review March 17, 2008 / 10 Adar II 5768

Avoid caregiver burnout

By Jan L. Warner & Jan Collins

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http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | DEAR READERS: Approximately 50 million Americans spend a lot of time caring for elderly parents, in-laws, grandparents, spouses and other older loved ones. Hence, we receive many letters and e-mails asking for advice about dealing with issues of caregiving.

While we have addressed this topic in past Next Steps columns, we believe that an article appearing this month in the magazine and on the Web site of Caring Today is worth sharing, especially in light of the often-forgotten fact that the recipients of caregiving are not all elderly.

Lee Woodruff, wife of Bob Woodruff, the former co-anchor of ABC's "World News Tonight," tells Caring Today what it was like to become an "instant caregiver" after her husband suffered a grievous brain injury in January 2006 as a result of an improvised explosive device while he was covering the war in Iraq.

Lee Woodruff gives three tips for those suddenly thrust into the role of caregiver:

  • Do something for yourself each day. She relied on an hour-long, early-morning swim each day to keep herself centered and physically fit "before the intensity of the day began."

  • Be a constant advocate for your loved one. Because "one wrong decision, one skipped medication could have dire consequences" for her husband and, ultimately, her family, Woodruff learned to listen to and communicate carefully with doctors, seek second opinions and monitor her husband's medication schedules, particularly after hospital shift changes.

  • Cash in your "chits." Immediately after her husband's injury, friends and acquaintances flooded Woodruff with offers of help. She told everyone she'd give them an IOU to be called in at some future time so that she wouldn't feel like she was constantly asking for favors.

Woodruff also told the magazine about things she would have done differently, like 1) asking for more help from friends and neighbors instead of holding back from fear of being a burden to others; 2) having a better handle on her family's finances; and 3) seeking emotional help earlier.

You can read the full article, and also find other caregiving resources and support, at www.caringtoday.com. And based upon our reader inquiries, we find that Woodruff's concerns mirror most we have seen.

We also recommend that caregivers check out the Web site of the American Geriatrics Society (www.americangeriatrics.org). To avoid caregiver burnout, the AGS recommends several things that caregivers can do:

  • Get as much information as you can about your loved one's health problems and needs, and how they are likely to change over time.

  • Help your loved ones help themselves by installing grab bars in the bathroom and near the bed, moving supplies to lower shelves, purchasing easy-grip can openers and other utensils, and so on.

  • Ask trustworthy family, friends and neighbors for assistance.

  • Take care of yourself, too. If you take care of yourself, you'll be able to take better care of your family member.

  • Don't take it personally. Remind yourself that any emotionally hurtful behavior on the part of your loved one is a result of illness.

Talk about it. Join a caregiver support group in your area to be able to share your thoughts, feelings and information with others in similar circumstances.

Contact professionals and organizations that assist caregivers. Look in the white pages of your telephone book under "Area Agency on Aging," "Senior Center" or "Senior Services." Or check with your local United Way or religious organizations. Or engage a geriatric care manager (www.caremanager.org), who can give you guidance about respite care services, meal providers, "home helpers," home-nursing services, adult day care and other options that can give you a well-deserved break.

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JAN L. WARNER received his A.B. and J.D. degrees from the University of South Carolina and earned a Master of Legal Letters (L.L.M.) in Taxation from the Emory University School of Law in Atlanta, Georgia. He is a frequent lecturer at legal education and public information programs throughout the United States. His articles have been published in national and state legal publications. Jan Collins began co-authoring Flying SoloŽ in 1989. She has more than 27 years of experience as a journalist, writer, and editor. To comment or ask a question, please click here.


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