In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Feb. 3, 2014/ 3 Adar I, 5774

Checked out

By Susan Reimer

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | (MCT) Faithful readers know that the impending wedding of my daughter has caused me to clean out all the rats' nests and cubby holes in my basement that haven't been inspected in years.

You'd think we were holding the reception there.

Anyway, among the boxes was one containing about 15 years of canceled checks, bank statements, health insurance forms and tax returns.

Even I, renowned recycling maven, haven't got the nerve to put that much personal information out on the curb, so I purchased my own personal shredder, which is a lot like purchasing your own personal fax machine. It never seems necessary until it is.

It is taking me days, but I am shredding the paperwork — eight pages at a time — and slowly filling one of those tall yard waste bags. It is sitting in the corner of the kitchen like a cigar store Indian.

While the shredder grinds, I look at the checks and remember where all my money went. Apparently, I spent it on my kids.

The pediatrician co-pays. The pre-school tuition checks. The department stores that don't exist any longer. Checks to the woman who babysat them for 16 years.

I bought plenty of soccer shoes and soccer shorts and shin guards and high white socks. I paid for camps and travel teams and trophies and the season-ending parties and the coach's gift. The pool membership and the swim team swim suits and the goggles and the private coach to help with starts and turns.

The checks are all there.

There are dozens of checks to my children's public schools for raffle tickets, spaghetti dinners and gift wrap. For field trips and band trips, uniforms, sports physicals, instrument rentals and sports banquets. I paid for math tutors and educational computer games, science camp, dance camp and SAT prep. And I paid for help writing college essays.

What I paid for wrestling camps and lacrosse travel could fund my own trip to Paris. Maybe two trips to Paris. I also bought a van in which to carry everyone around. I paid for car insurance and cell phones — do you remember when the bills listed every phone number you called?

The U.S. Department of Agriculture — and don't ask me why it is this agency — estimates how much parents will spend on a child born in a particular year, and each year the amount goes up.

Children born in 2012 are estimated to cost middle-income parents with an income of between $60,640 and $105,000 about $241,080 from birth through high school.

If you make more than $105,000, you can expect to pay just shy of $400,000 for those 18 years. If you live in a city in the Northeast and both parents are working, you will spend about $19,000 a year. Per child.

But as New York Times family blogger KJ Dell'Antonia points out, there is a huge difference between what it actually costs to raise a child and what parents of elevated incomes choose to spend. There is no dollar amount that guarantees a happy and successful child. If there was, we would all take out loans.

In addition, new research from Princeton and Stony Brook universities suggests there is very little difference between the life satisfaction of parents and of people without kids. As one of the researchers pointed out to CNN, if I choose an orange because I like oranges and you choose an apple because you like apples, why would someone watching us assume that our sense of satisfaction would be different?

But there are all those canceled checks and the shredder keeps grinding.

We pay for things differently now, of course. We are not only a check-less society, we are almost a cashless society, and the transactions disappear into the ether. Certainly a family could reconstruct what it spends on the kids in a year, but there is something about all those canceled checks in faded blues and faded greens.

Evidently, I was devoted to my children's well-being and I loved them immensely. I have the canceled checks to prove it.

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