In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review March 3, 2014 / 1 Adar II, 5774

Examining the NFL's debate for penalties for using black slur

By Mitch Albom

JewishWorldReview.com | It's not my word.

I don't like it. I don't use it.

To me, the N-word is a hateful slur based on a person's skin color. Yet because my skin is also a certain color, I am told I cannot I criticize its usage.

It's not my word.

But sooner or later, everyone, black and white, will stop saying it in public. This is inevitable. It's called evolving. One day, we will look back on the current debate and shake our heads.

Meanwhile, that debate now centers on whether the NFL should start penalizing teams 15 yards for a player's use of the N-word on the field.

Is this absolutely essential? No. Will it be easily — or even fairly — enforced? Hardly. Is there any way the NFL should do this without cracking down on all ethnic and homophobic slurs — and losing the name "Redskins" in Washington? No way.

But while those are fair objections, surprisingly, they have not been the loudest. The loudest has been from a contingent that believes using the N-word is a right that shouldn't be touched.

If I said that 50 years ago, you'd assume I was talking about white people.

I'm not.

Image everything for the NFL

Instead, I'm referring to a very vocal minority — at least I believe it's a minority — of athletes, entertainers, commentators and advocates who are mostly African American, and who claim the NFL's possible initiative is a move that, as one such critic for huffingtonpost.com wrote, "emboldens whites who assert their privilege over use of the N-word."

Huh? Look. I don't shake the rafters of this idea and find sociological ghosts of white supremacy. I see a multi-billion-dollar entertainment industry worried about its image.

The NFL has grown into a profitable behemoth by controlling every element of how it is portrayed, down to fining players for wearing the wrong socks.

It saw the negative attention the Richie Incognito/Jonathan Martin harassment case caused. It saw the huge spotlight cast by Michael Sam's announcement that he is gay. It thinks ahead, years, even decades. It knows the world is becoming less and less tolerant of any display of intolerance.

"We want this word to be policed from the parking lot to the equipment room to the locker room," John Wooten told CBSSports.com. Wooten, an African American, is a former NFL linemen who now heads the Fritz Pollard Alliance Foundation, which monitors diversity in the NFL. He is pushing the N-word ban.

Do I think it's more trouble than it's worth? Yes. But does the NFL have the right to do it? Absolutely. Telling players they can't use racial slurs on the field — which is, after all, the workplace — is not much different than IBM outlawing outbursts in the research department or Macy's forbidding them on the main floor.

Only in those cases, you wouldn't get penalized 15 yards; you'd get fired.

So critics who say the NFL has no right are wrong. The field is a stage; NFL owners are the directors. If you feel compelled to scream the N-word, you can do it, without a paycheck, in the parking lot.

A trickier debate is why black players want to cling to the word in the first place.

A unique disagreement

Admittedly, I am not black, and cannot possibly feel the same feelings as any African American objecting to this idea. But that doesn't make me — or other whites, Latinos, Asians, Native Americans, etc. — stupid or insensitive. We recognize history. We understand how for years the N-word was a daily verbal stripping of a person's dignity, and how some now proudly use the word themselves as a brick through the window of such an awful legacy.

But Japanese Americans were interned and dehumanized less than 70 years ago in this country; they don't embrace the J-word. Jews were systematically executed, gassed and buried in mass graves — all less than 70 years ago — and they don't defiantly cling to the K-word. Nor do Chinese Americans boast the C-word, Italians the W-word, Germans the K-word, etc. And there are other African-American slurs that few blacks would tolerate, even from one another.

The N-word fight is unique. And while nobody should dictate private conversations, if the NFL is going to suspend a white player for using the N-word at an off-season concert or suspend an African-American referee for allegedly saying it to an African-American player, then why the shock at a yellow flag? It's 15 yards, not a lifetime ban. The NFL would equate the behavior with excessive celebrating.

Eventually, I believe, people will get tired of defending this hateful slur. In years to come, it may even seem silly. But this is how things change, in fits and starts, coughs and sputters, some easy, some hard.

It is not my word. In time, it won't be anyone else's.

The day can't come quickly enough.

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