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December 2, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Jan. 11, 2013/ 29 Teves, 5773

Kim and Kanye, the latest to put marriage last

By Susan Reimer




http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | (MCT) It wasn't a surprise to learn that famous-for-being-famous Kim Kardashian was pregnant by boyfriend of five months Kanye West. Celebs regularly put the baby carriage before marriage, and she is just the latest.

And it wasn't surprising that her family tweeted — because that's how we communicate these days — their joy. We long ago stopped stigmatizing unwed mothers, even ones like Ms. Kardashian who is still tangled in divorce proceedings after her very brief marriage to basketball player Kris Humphries and may still be married to him when her baby is born this summer.

What was surprising was the reaction of younger brother Rob, who said at a Las Vegas event New Year's Eve, "I am so proud of my sisters, but I'll be married before I have a baby."

Another of his sisters, Kourtney, has two children but is not married to their father, Scott Disick, and that relationship has been rocky. And Mr. Kardashian recently broke with his girlfriend, singer Rita Ora, after he tweeted that she cheated on him with 20 men. So he may not be in love with love right now.

But his comments about marriage first and babies later are rare enough to be worth noting, especially since the institution of marriage is in trouble in this country: The majority of births for women under 30 now occur outside marriage, and that is especially true among women without a college degree.

"We have adopted a position of non-judgmentalism, a posture of celebrating motherhood no matter how it happens," said W. Bradford Wilcox, director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia.

"Hollywood is both a cause and a consequence of larger changes in our understanding of how marriage and child-bearing do and do not fit together."

What research has shown, Mr. Wilcox said, is that women who are not college educated are much more likely to put babies before marriage, and it is often because many of the men in their communities are having difficulty finding jobs and staying out of trouble. There are few good husband prospects for a working-class woman — and even fewer for a poor woman.

But in more affluent, more educated communities, adults know — and make this clear to their children — that the path to success includes education, work, marriage and kids. In that order.

"This is the success sequence they know and they are sure their kids are going to follow," he said, noting that those closest to them would disapprove of any other path.

In addition to the economic divide in our view of marriage and child-bearing, there has been a cultural shift as well, and Hollywood has played its part in this. "Kim Kardashian is only 'Exhibit Z,'" Mr. Wilcox said.

"She can afford to do this," he said. "The sad reality is that most women can't afford it, and their kids suffer."

Social scientists have ascribed a long list of ills for children born outside a stable marriage: They are more likely to live in poverty, more likely to fail in school, less likely to go to college and achieve status jobs, more likely to eventually divorce or become unwed parents. They are also more likely to abuse drugs or alcohol and engage in crime, have higher rates of injury or illness, and they are at greater risk of child abuse.

There is something about marriage that is predictive of other behaviors that have good outcomes for both the parents and the children.

Marriage is also a way to keep the father in the picture, both as a breadwinner and a source of love, affection and support. Sadly, Mr. Wilcox said, "most kids born to cohabiting parents see their parents split by the time they turn 5."

"Lots of children are raised successfully by single mothers. My mother was a single mother," said Mr. Wilcox — but that's no reason to make it the norm.

This is the part where I am supposed to say that Kim and Kanye may be the exception — marrying as soon as she is free to do so and growing old together, with a bunch of well-adjusted kids who go to college, get good jobs, marry and have children of their own, in that order, because they believe it works.

But I don't see that happening.

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Susan Reimer is a columnist for The Baltimore Sun. Comment by clicking here.


Previously:

Everybody with a Twitter handle is now a meddlesome aunt to the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge

Keep your friends close, your enemies on a list

After all these years, relearning 'please' and 'thank you'

Fooling Mother Nature: still not a good idea

Baby Boomer: Looking at retirement, not facing reality

A chance purchase connected a woman to someone who changed her life profoundly, though they never met

Relocation starts to split up the old gang

Remember this: We all forget things

‘Superjobs’ leaving us super-stressed

On entitlements, younger generation has its say

Missing the good old days of the Cold War

Friends can be risky business for teens

In Social Security reports, a story of women's priorities

One soon-to-be grandmother's advice about sweating the small stuff

In my family's universe, I am not a star

Is America ready for a new ‘life stage’?

Paying for good behavior is worth every penny

He's on vacation, but she needs a break

Conan says what we wish we could

Body image issues get a new meaning

A spreadsheet for happiness? Thanks, but I'll take the wine



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