In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

Mad Men Mussar

By Rivy Poupko Kletenik

It's time to give some character lessons to some of TV's most complex characters

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | Dear Rivy,

AMC announced Friday that its hit show "Mad Men" will return for Season 5. I believe the time has come for some words of wisdom for our "Mad Men" provocateurs. As I, like many a viewer, have voyeuristically tuned in to witness the various foibles of our favorite diabolical personas, it has not been easy to refrain from engaging in imaginary exchanges aimed at setting each of them straight. On that note, they probably each need more than just a heart-to-heart. They need some Torah! Any luck that you would consider giving at stab at this exercise with some fictitious reproof?

Far be it from me to turn down an opportunity for "Mad Men Mussar!" Especially knowing to what degree each of the series' characters is fertile ground for some genuine character refinement. Some might ask, "Why waste a good Mussar moment on the fantasy folks from TV-land, fun as it may be?" But it is often noted that in fiction are the lies that tell the truth.

We humans love stories. Stories offer us the opportunity to carefully scrutinize the behaviors of others without risking the vulnerability of speaking openly about ourselves or those close to us. We crave the thrill of observing; it allows us to search for our own meaning and to probe our own values as we watch and explore our reactions to the shenanigans on the small screen.

"Mad Men" characters have grabbed our imagination, portraying a collection of deeply complex personalities while catapulting us back to an age that looms large in our minds: The watershed years of the '60s. Given that, let's give it a go, and explore a few of these efforts at middot — character trait improvements — that may even resonate for us real folks.

Here is a quick refresher: Mussar is a path of personal growth within everyday life, with meticulous attention to specific character traits — your own life curriculum — that repeatedly present themselves to you in the form of pitfalls and ongoing conflict within yourself and others. Becoming more widespread, as a result, in no small way to the popularity of Alan Morinis' first book Everyday Holiness, and his new hands-on volume, Every Day, Holy Day. Mussar urges us to use reflection, study, coaching and journaling to realize our potential through tough inner work, as a mode for spiritual perfection. So, using the Mussar tradition, onto "Mad Men."

Don Draper, the central protagonist, has been struggling with his identity. Don, it is time for some truth in your life. The author of the Cheshbon HaNefesh, Rabbi Mendel of Satanov, writes:

Do not allow anything to pass your lips that you are not certain is completely true. One must stand guard even against something which only hints at deception or ambiguity — including lies that are not specifically said and mistaken assumptions which one leads people to make. One must continue to exercise caution until one's eyes are opened and one sees the beauty of truth.

Viewers have certainly noticed that you are taking some strides in this regard with your new practice of journaling and even your small acknowledgment to your children that Dick was once your nickname. With more of this next season, you may begin to feel more true to yourself and perhaps experience some respite from the pressure of your troubling internal conflict.

I confess, upon first coming across Betty, Don's now-ex-wife, I was impressed with her demure demeanor. I was immediately a fan. That has all changed. I am disturbed by her parenting methods — or perhaps the lack thereof. Her firing of longtime housekeeper and nanny Carla and her continuous lashing out and appalling lack of compassionate connection with daughter Sally greatly concerns me. Betty, the time has come for some work on the middah of chesed, loving kindness.

Rabbi Chaim Zaitchik, author of Sparks of Mussar, tells us that chesed means being careful of another's honor and dignity, helping others, having one's heart overflow with love and kindness, utilizing every opportunity to benefit others, even greeting others with a pleasant countenance, because it makes the other feel good and binds people together in friendship.

Peggy, the favored character of all, displays many positive character traits: Diligence, strength and responsibility. As a woman in the work force, Peggy experiences the struggles and anxiety of the birth pangs of the feminist movement. She is talented, creative and her boldness is on par with her male counterparts, but it is painful to watch this proto-feminist age with not only blatant discrimination and indignities but outright disrespect and cruel workplace abuse.

Peggy, if we could only sneak you a peek of what lies before you; you are destined to come a long way, baby. Therefore, even as you share a commiserating smoke with Joan, please keep in mind that good things come to those who wait. Channel your inner middah of patience. Alan Morinis writes that the Hebrew word for patience, savlanut, also means "tolerance." The same root gives rise to words that means "suffer" (sevel) and "burdens" (sivlos).We learn from this that patience is not necessarily a pleasant experience. That may mean enduring and tolerating, and the experience may even mean bearing a burden. Peggy, your day will come.

Speaking of Joan, our Batsheba-esque character — carrying another man's baby while her husband is off at war — it is time, oddly enough, to find some joy. Joan's carrying is not limited to her being in a family way; she seems to have the world on her shoulders as well. Her misstep with Roger notwithstanding, Joan, you would do well to embrace the teaching of Rabbi Dovid Bliacher: "If trouble comes upon you and you think that it has come as a punishment for a past lapse, do not be filled with guilt and despair. Rather, rejoice in this new opportunity to rise up by the medium of the test that you now face." Joan, you certainly have it in you!

Roger, resident bad-boy, is our last beneficiary of unsolicited "Mad Men Mussar." Roger, grow up! A heavy dose of responsibility for you! Achrayut demands of us that we, in the words of Rabbi Yisrael Salanter, should first put our house together, then our town, then the world. Roger, if you continue on the path on which you are headed, this world has no chance. If only you would consider anticipating the consequences of your actions and take responsibility for your repeated bad choices, perhaps there might be a smidgen of a chance for some redemptive moments ahead.

Could this season have contained some of our own perilous hidden demons? Many thanks, Mathew Weiner, for providing us with countless opportunities for inner growth. We've got a few months ahead for self-improvement till the start of season five!

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JWR contributor Rivy Poupko Kletenik is an internationally renowned educator and Head of School at the Seattle Hebrew Academy.


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