In this issue

Jonathan Tobin: Defending the Right to a Jewish State

Heather Hale: Compliment your kids without giving them big heads

Megan Shauri: 10 ways you are ruining your own happiness

Carolyn Bigda: 8 Best Dividend Stocks for 2015

Kiplinger's Personal Finance editors: 7 Things You Didn't Know About Paying Off Student Loans

Samantha Olson: The Crucial Mistake 55% Of Parents Are Making At Their Baby's Bedtime

Densie Well, Ph.D., R.D. Open your eyes to yellow vegetables

The Kosher Gourmet by Megan Gordon With its colorful cache of purples and oranges and reds, COLLARD GREEN SLAW is a marvelous mood booster --- not to mention just downright delish
April 18, 2014

Rabbi Yonason Goldson: Clarifying one of the greatest philosophical conundrums in theology

Caroline B. Glick: The disappearance of US will

Megan Wallgren: 10 things I've learned from my teenagers

Lizette Borreli: Green Tea Boosts Brain Power, May Help Treat Dementia

John Ericson: Trying hard to be 'positive' but never succeeding? Blame Your Brain

The Kosher Gourmet by Julie Rothman Almondy, flourless torta del re (Italian king's cake), has royal roots, is simple to make, . . . but devour it because it's simply delicious

April 14, 2014

Rabbi Dr Naftali Brawer: Passover frees us from the tyranny of time

Greg Crosby: Passing Over Religion

Eric Schulzke: First degree: How America really recovered from a murder epidemic

Georgia Lee: When love is not enough: Teaching your kids about the realities of adult relationships

Cameron Huddleston: Freebies for Your Lawn and Garden

Gordon Pape: How you can tell if your financial adviser is setting you up for potential ruin

Dana Dovey: Up to 500,000 people die each year from hepatitis C-related liver disease. New Treatment Has Over 90% Success Rate

Justin Caba: Eating Watermelon Can Help Control High Blood Pressure

The Kosher Gourmet by Joshua E. London and Lou Marmon Don't dare pass over these Pesach picks for Manischewitz!

April 11, 2014

Rabbi Hillel Goldberg: Silence is much more than golden

Caroline B. Glick: Forgetting freedom at Passover

Susan Swann: How to value a child for who he is, not just what he does

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Financial Tasks You Should Tackle Right Now

Sandra Block and Lisa Gerstner: How to Profit From Your Passion

Susan Scutti: A Simple Blood Test Might Soon Diagnose Cancer

Chris Weller: Have A Slow Metabolism? Let Science Speed It Up For You

The Kosher Gourmet by Diane Rossen Worthington Whitefish Terrine: A French take on gefilte fish

April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review

Tips to fight depression and winter blues

By Nancy Churnin

http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | (MCT) You've made it through the thrills and chills of the holiday season. Now you have the bills.

And we're not just talking about the money. We're talking about the deflation and sadness that can be the emotional price of putting off time to reflect as you ricochet from one festive obligation to another.

"February has always been the biggest month for new therapy patients," says Dr. Don Hafer, a neuropsychologist and director of Behavioral Health at Texas Health Presbyterian Hospital Dallas. "There's a letdown phenomenon in January. You push, you push, you push all through the holidays. There's a little bit of a high, and then in February you crash."

We can head off the crash by taking stock of our mental health now and making a resolution to stay mentally fit all year long, he says.

Hafer and others agree that you need to take at least as much time for mental health as you do for physical fitness. And while physical fitness requires activity, what they want to see in mental fitness is stillness.

He recommends that everyone take 15 minutes to quiet the body and focus the mind. He does it himself and says it is every bit as healthful as biofeedback, yoga and meditation.

In fact, for his dissertation, he put one set of people in a room with a relaxation tape and another in a room with a tape that was blank after a brief introduction. Both groups ended up with similarly lowered blood pressure.

"I'm known for being this low-key, focused guy," he says. "But I'm completely Type-A, hard-driving, competitive. If I didn't do this, I would not be nearly as productive because I would be spinning my wheels."

Acknowledging that many may struggle to find those 15 minutes, he suggests that quiet time can be combined with another exercise he recommends: journaling. "Don't sit down and write only about the negative stuff – that makes you more anxious. Most of the journaling needs to be on what's going well in your life and what you have to be thankful for."

Dr. Gary Malone, a psychoanalyst at the Dallas Psychoanalytic Institute and medical director of psychiatry at Baylor All Saints Medical Center at Fort Worth, goes so far as to write prescriptions for his patients to block off a half hour a day simply to be "calm and introspective," he says.

"I often have to do this for women with small kids who get no peace ever," he says. "They take the prescription, show it to their spouse and say, 'I'm going in the backyard. I'll see you in 30 minutes.'"

He admits that when his children were younger, it was hard for him to carve out that time as consistently as he would have liked. But now that they are grown, he is diligent about taking his own prescription daily. He believes it takes that investment of time to learn how to face inner and outer conflicts and find inner peace.

"You have to sit, take a deep breath, relax and think about what your day was like, what's wrong, what's bothering you and what you can change. You don't have to be watching TV or checking your e-mail 24 hours a day. But you do need to resolve the conflicts and resentments that are blocking you from achieving your best life."

Chronic conflict and resentment can also make you more prone to infections and illness, he says.

Even if you seek help from a friend, a spiritual adviser or a trained mental professional to kick-start or help guide the process, he stresses that ultimately the only person who can heal your mind is you.

"You have to remember you're not the passenger. You are at the steering wheel of your life. And the psychological work is ongoing."Finding a balance

Experts we talked to for this story agreed that a mental-fitness routine would begin with spending 15 to 30 minutes a day being calm and introspective. Some tips for staying mentally healthy:

Find a support group: Look for one that focuses on seeking positive solutions or accepts that there are things that can't be fixed. A group that complains together can add to your anger and sense of hopelessness.

Don't abuse drugs and alcohol: Often people try to self-medicate this way, but that makes problems worse.

Be true to yourself: Find people with whom you can be honest and like you for who you are right now and not because of weight you're going to lose or money you're going to make. Don't pretend to be someone you're not.

Exercise, watch your diet and get your sleep: If you exercise 45 minutes a day in your 50s, you drop your chances of dementia by 15 percent in your 70s, Dr. Gary Malone says.

Focus on the positive: Make time for listening to music or reading a book; don't dwell too long on stressful or negative topics.

Socialize and have fun: Inexpensive social activities, such as watching a movie or playing a game with family and friends, taking a walk or organizing a family cookout can keep you and your family healthy.

SOURCES: Dr. Don Hafer, Dr. Gary Malone, American Psychiatric Association

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