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April 9, 2014

Jonathan Tobin: Why Did Kerry Lie About Israeli Blame?

Samuel G. Freedman: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Jessica Ivins: A resolution 70 years later for a father's unsettling legacy of ashes from Dachau

Kim Giles: Asking for help is not weakness

Kathy Kristof and Barbara Hoch Marcus: 7 Great Growth Israeli Stocks

Matthew Mientka: How Beans, Peas, And Chickpeas Cleanse Bad Cholesterol and Lowers Risk of Heart Disease

Sabrina Bachai: 5 At-Home Treatments For Headaches

The Kosher Gourmet by Daniel Neman Have yourself a matzo ball: The secrets bubby never told you and recipes she could have never imagined

April 8, 2014

Lori Nawyn: At Your Wit's End and Back: Finding Peace

Susan B. Garland and Rachel L. Sheedy: Strategies Married Couples Can Use to Boost Benefits

David Muhlbaum: Smart Tax Deductions Non-Itemizers Can Claim

Jill Weisenberger, M.S., R.D.N., C.D.E : Before You Lose Your Mental Edge

Dana Dovey: Coffee Drinkers Rejoice! Your Cup Of Joe Can Prevent Death From Liver Disease

Chris Weller: Electric 'Thinking Cap' Puts Your Brain Power Into High Gear

The Kosher Gourmet by Marlene Parrish A gift of hazelnuts keeps giving --- for a variety of nutty recipes: Entree, side, soup, dessert

April 4, 2014

Rabbi David Gutterman: The Word for Nothing Means Everything

Charles Krauthammer: Kerry's folly, Chapter 3

Amy Peterson: A life of love: How to build lasting relationships with your children

John Ericson: Older Women: Save Your Heart, Prevent Stroke Don't Drink Diet

John Ericson: Why 50 million Americans will still have spring allergies after taking meds

Cameron Huddleston: Best and Worst Buys of April 2014

Stacy Rapacon: Great Mutual Funds for Young Investors

Sarah Boesveld: Teacher keeps promise to mail thousands of former students letters written by their past selves

The Kosher Gourmet by Sharon Thompson Anyone can make a salad, you say. But can they make a great salad? (SECRETS, TESTED TECHNIQUES + 4 RECIPES, INCLUDING DRESSINGS)

April 2, 2014

Paul Greenberg: Death and joy in the spring

Dan Barry: Should South Carolina Jews be forced to maintain this chimney built by Germans serving the Nazis?

Mayra Bitsko: Save me! An alien took over my child's personality

Frank Clayton: Get happy: 20 scientifically proven happiness activities

Susan Scutti: It's Genetic! Obesity and the 'Carb Breakdown' Gene

Lecia Bushak: Why Hand Sanitizer May Actually Harm Your Health

Stacy Rapacon: Great Funds You Can Own for $500 or Less

Cameron Huddleston: 7 Ways to Save on Home Decor

The Kosher Gourmet by Steve Petusevsky Exploring ingredients as edible-stuffed containers (TWO RECIPES + TIPS & TECHINQUES)

Jewish World Review Jan. 15, 2010 / 29 Teves 5770

Look, Mom — no thumbs!

By Lori Borgman

Lori Borgman


http://www.JewishWorldReview.com | You're not going to believe this one: We were out to dinner seated at a table adjacent to a family of five and not a one of them was working a Blackberry, e-mailing or texting. And they didn't have ear buds jammed in their ears.


It was such a flashback of days gone by, we expected to see Norman Rockwell in the corner with an easel and canvas painting the scene for a cover of The Saturday Evening Post.


And now comes something even more unbelievable — they sat there like that for an hour and a half. That's right, 90 minutes. Who knew families could still sit together that long and not be parked in front of a television?


But wait — there's more.


When the father did make a cell phone call, he left the table. That's right, he stood up, walked over to the entryway and then used his cell phone.


You're probably thinking the same thing we were thinking, "What planet are these people from?"


And if that's not unbelievable enough, listen to this: They weren't just sitting there NOT using their thumbs on a key pad, they were talking to each other. It was all very old school — making eye contact, using words, forming sentences, hand gestures, listening, pausing.


And shock beyond shock, they seemed to be enjoying one another. No one was scowling or snarling and the kids (teens to early 20s) had not been duct taped to their chairs. The authors of "Escaping the Endless Adolescence," Joseph Allen and Claudia Worrell Allen, ask if 25 is the new 15. They contend that many of the endless adolescent problems today stem from young people not being grafted into the adult world, including adult conversations.

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The pair conducted focus groups with successful college seniors to explore their interaction with adults who had influenced their lives. Student after student recounted stories of influential conversations with teachers or other adults, most of which lasted 20 minutes or sometimes less.


The Allens' conclusion was that even modest involvement with a young person can have a huge influence.


Larry Winget is a personal finance author turned parenting coach and now the author of "Your Kids are Your Own Fault." The man says his goal is to make parents uncomfortable and he succeeds. Winget says, on average, parents spend 3 1/2 minutes a week in meaningful conversation with their kids. That's four stop lights, one NFL commercial break or a Taylor Swift music video.


The kids in the restaurant were gifted. Not in the intellectual sense, but in the time sense. Their parents gave them 90 minutes. Face to face. Uninterrupted. Cell phone free. No electronics. Plus salad, beverage and an entrée.


I was in line at the grocery behind a dad and his adorable toddler sitting in the cart when the little boy started squirming and whining. The father said OK, pulled out an iPhone, tapped an app and handed it to the little guy who was immediately transfixed.


Wonder what kind of dinner conversations they'll be having 10 years from now?


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